Let's face it. A married couple doesn't consider a trial separation until things have become pretty desperate on the homefront. Still, some time apart may offer the only hope a relationship has to survive. If you are considering taking a break from your spouse, but you're afraid that it will inevitably lead to divorce, take heed. The trick to a trial separation may just be all in the name. 5 Ways To Be Happy About Your Love Life Right Now!
In this video, author, life coach and YourTango Expert Amy Spencer says that fear associated with taking a trial separation may stem from our implicit associations with the term "trial separation." Thus, her first suggestion is to call it something else. "Call it a love hiatus, a vacation from your relationship, a love sabbatical" — anything that doesn't automatically evoke thoughts of divorce. That way, you aren't setting yourself up for failure.
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Next, Amy says, if you want the break to be productive, "don't bring other people into the equation." Dating will only complicate things and make it more difficult for you and your spouse to work things out in the end. How To Remove Your Ex From Your Life & Your Closet
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