Finding The Perfect Man: What Are Your "Must Haves?"

I’m old enough to know better, definitely smart of enough to know better but, I did it just the same. What? Shortly after my divorce I made a list of all the qualities my “perfect” man would have. Why did I do it? Because, it is something us women do regardless of how old or how smart we are. Top Ten Places to Meet Mr. Right

My perfect man…

1. Is taller than five feet ten inches. What can I say, I like a man I can look up to.

2. Is not thin. I prefer a man who has some meat on him. I’m quite zaftig and a larger man makes me feel “smaller.” It is a huge dose of denial on my part but it works.

3. Is financially viable. I do not want to support a freeloader, no matter how delicious he is. I don’t need him to take care of me but he better be able to take care of himself.

4. Is funny…I need a man who can laugh at life, himself and WITH me. It doesn’t pay to take things too seriously, especially in relationships with the opposite sex. I Want a Man Who Earns Me

5. Is honest…about age, marital status, toupees, illnesses, children, criminal record, sexual diseases, and sexual oddities and FICO score.

6. May need Viagra and that is fine. Just don’t complain about the cost.

7. Must love dogs, especially my dogs.

8. Likes to read and share what he is reading in bed. The Man of My Dreams Will Lie in Bed With Me & Discuss a Good Book

9. Has a commonality of beliefs and cultural background.

10. Has a good image of himself, is creative, loves his children, and has a life of his own.

Over the years I’ve dated men I met online, men my friends fixed me up with and men I met while squeezing melons or networking for my career. I’ve discovered one thing, there is no “perfect” man. Not my idea of perfect for me anyway. Dating After Divorce: An Indecent, Freaky Or Attractive Proposition?

I’ve also discovered that compromise and tolerance is needed and now have a new list, one full of compromise and tolerance. We are all, after all imperfect but in some very delicious ways!

My New Perfect Man…

1. Height is not that important to me anymore. If he is worth having I will look up to him no matter how tall.

2. What does it matter if a man is skinny or fat? Note to self: Consider a tummy tuck. That will help with the zaftig thing.

3. Honesty… if he wears a toupee or has a pacemaker, I can live with that.