Do You Have The Kind Of Attitude Men Find Irresistible?

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Do You Have The Kind Of Attitude Men Find Irresistible?
Learn the three characteristics that intrigue a man and make you stand out in his mind.

When you meet a new man you like, it’s tempting to think you need to actively do something to show him why he should be attracted to you and interested in you. You might think you need to show him what a great cook you are by making him a meal or helping him with a problem so that he sees that you’d make a good partner.

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But while every relationship needs a balance of give and take, these efforts on your part are not what make a man attracted to you. The truth is that the women who men find irresistible have certain "attitudes" that draw a man's attention and interest easily – with little or no effort.
You can think of these “attitudes” as what you are saying to a man without you saying a word. Your internal emotions, your body language, and your tone of voice all communicate your “attitude” at a deep level.
Here are three attitudes that are subtly irresistible to a man:

Irresistible Attitude #1: "I don't let a man determine what I will have in my love-life."

This kind of woman won't settle for a man who isn't giving her what she wants and needs emotionally. Men respect this at a deep level, and they either become engaged and inspired by this to want to be with you…or turn the other way if they really aren’t looking for what you want.
How do you embody this? By first taking stock of what you really need in a relationship, and then sticking up for it. For instance, say you’re ready for an exclusive relationship. Simply tell him, “You have every right to date other women, but I’m looking for exclusivity. It’s what feels right for me.” This is a lot different from issuing a man an ultimatum. It tells him that this is what you need independent of him and that you are not looking for him to make something happen. Rather, you are stating what you are looking for – with or without him.

Irresistible Attitude #2: "I'd leave a man before I allow unacceptable behavior."

This woman won't stay in a relationship that's abusive, degrading, or morally questionable. She also won't put up with bad behavior from a man. Integrity and trust are important to her, and she lets him know that.

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The cornerstone of this attitude is a healthy sense of self-esteem. In a relationship, the first person you must take care of is you. Know your boundaries so that you can recognize when someone crosses them – and let him know when something is not acceptable to you.


Irresistible Attitude #3: "I wouldn't keep a man from doing the healthy, personal things he enjoys, or let my own fears or limitations stand in his way."

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