Third-generation matchmaker Patti Stanger does not pull punches. Any fan of her Bravo show Millionaire Matchmaker knows Patti's not keen on redheads, and she'll kick a guy's butt for prioritizing his "bros" above all. But there's a method to her caustic madness.
In her new DVD, Married In a Year: Your 12-Month Action Plan for Finding Love, the love pro explains her rules of the relationship-finding road so you can serve as your own successful cupid. She recently shared her thoughts on what you must ditch before you begin your journey to true love, how to get your guy to make like Prince William and pop the question, and which recently single stars she would sent to singles boot camp. 5 Dating Tips From The Millionaire Matchmaker
YourTango: This month, we're sponsoring a campaign called "Break Up with Your Ex." Do you think it's possible to be friends with your ex?
Patti Stanger: You can only stay friends with an ex if you're not sexually attracted to him. If you're jonesing for him, you have to wait until you're in another relationship to be friends. And if you go back to an ex, you won't have space for a new guy to arrive. If a guy feels "clutter," he's going to walk away.
What can you do to get over that ex, so you can clear the "clutter" once and for all?
Sleep with someone else you're really attracted to! The minute you like someone else, you don't remember the other guy. I'm just being honest! It doesn't have to be intercourse—you can make out. Just fantasize about the new guy, and the old guy is history. And yes, also take him out of your phone, and defriend him on Facebook. It's a cleansing process. By deleting him from your life in these ways, you're saying, "I will never speak to this person again." How To Break Free From Your Ex
What are some valuable lessons we could all learn from celebrity couples?
Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn—you don't have to be married to be in love.
Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson—both married before, but then they met, kept it real and had two kids together.
Heidi Klum and Seal—she's beautiful, and he's not. He fell in love with her while she was pregnant with another guy's baby! I think he's really a man for doing that.
Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott—soul mates can happen when you're married to someone else.
Pierce Brosnan—stayed with his [first] wife when she was sick. It's amazing he could fall in love again [with current wife, Keely Shaye Smith]! Top Ten Longest Hollywood Marriages
Are there any celebrities who have had a rough time in love lately that you'd enjoy taking on as a client?
Jennifer Aniston! Actually, I want to do an intervention with Courtney Cox and Jennifer Aniston. I feel like I understand them. We're all in our 40s, and to be cheated on is the hardest thing to get over. Jen has to see it in her face every day, and those feelings just don't go away. I love Courtney, too. We'll go into singles bootcamp together! Maybe they could teach me a thing or two.