“I used to hate certain things about myself and would do anything to cover it up so I didn’t feel embarrassed, ashamed or guilty for being that way. It stopped me from connecting to people and I was miserable feeling lonely and sorry for myself. Dr. Raymond helped me to understand that I was robbing myself from knowing myself and from letting others get to know me. Dr. Raymond accepted all parts of me and gradually I realized that I wasn’t a bad girl going to hell. Dr. Raymond made me question my judgements about myself and I started doing it myself. I found that when I am not embarrassed or ashamed to be myself, the response I get is more relaxed and I feel more connected.
The more Dr. Raymond liked the parts of me I didn’t approve of the more curious I got about who I really was. It was hard to see that I was the one stopping myself from having closeness and care from my family and friends. Guilt, shame and embarrassment no longer overpower me because I have learned from Dr. Raymond that I am lovable exactly as I am. I don’t hide from myself and I don’t have to hide from anyone else either. The most surprising thing is that I am finding genuine love and affection in my world.” Forty-four year old massage therapist.