Celebrities and the average woman alike tend to obsess about what they look like and how others view them. Sometimes, this is fun—like shopping for new clothes or trying different makeup. But other times, it leads to negative feelings like, "I'm not pretty, skinny or tall enough." Does every woman battle with these image issues?
In this video, Image Consultant, Matchmaker and YourTango Expert, Kimberly Seltzer explains what a lot of her clients struggle with when it comes to their insecurities, and the techniques she tries with them to improve their own body image. Learn why it's better to embrace your positive qualities than to listen to those critical thoughts.
Check out this video and find out the different ways we overcome our body image issues.
Hi I’m Kimberly Seltzer with Ask an Expert answering your love and relationship questions. Todays’ question is: Dear Kimberly, I see a lot of women struggling with their bodies, especially celebrities. Is this a universal problem and do all women deal with this?
Well the answer is, I work with both men and women, and I have to say women are hard on themselves when it comes to their body image. And usually the image that you see in the mirror is different from how you see yourself. So really pay attention to what it is about you that you’re unhappy with. If it’s something about your body or something about the way that you walk or something about your face, where does that come from? And often it comes from messages we received when we were smaller and it plays out in our adulthood so it’s something that makes us feel self-conscious as an adult. But the thing that’s really funny is that when I ask clients to have other people write down how they see that person it’s always vastly different from how they see themselves.
Another good thing to do is take a video of yourself like I’m doing right now, I’m sure I’ll pick apart this video, or a photo of yourself and look at how you are portraying to the world. And I bet you’ll see some different things. I once worked with a woman who really saw herself as ugly and fat and it wasn’t until I got her on video and she played it back that she was surprised, she could not get over how beautiful she looked on camera and it really shifted the way she viewed herself. And once you shift that you’ll walk through life a little more confident.
The other thing I help people do is teach them about their body type. ‘Cause once you know your body type you’ll get clothes that will flatter you and you’ll feel more confident in. If you don’t know your body type and you keep going into the department stores and trying on all these things and then you’re feeling bad about yourself it’s ‘cause you’re not knowing about what to put on your body. So, don’t be hard on yourself, embrace all the good qualities that you have, and you’ll be happier for it.
Connect with me at YourTango.com/Experts/KimSeltzer.
The couple was enjoying a lovely dinner not long after their quickie wedding in 2009 when they decided to get crazy and hit up the local tattoo parlor. Now, they each sport the other's initials in cursive on their hands. "It’s special to me, which is why I believe it’s worth it when it symbolizes something or someone that is important to you," Khloe said of the gesture.
Unfortunately, the romance ended when Khloe filed for divorce in December 2013 after finding out about Lamar's cheating.
The controversial on-again-off-again couple have a matching trail of stars down their neck. Chris shot down rumors of a battered Rihanna tattoo. And as for RiRi, she's just a fan of body art. "I like hanging out in tattoo shops," she's said. "I am so intrigued by tattoos. It's an entire culture, and I study it."
The two are currently off and probably will stay that way. Rihanna has added more stars that extend to her shoulder blade.
While I'm all for honoring someone's life, Bobbi Kristina and husband/step-brother Nick Gordon perhaps went overboard with their matching wrist tattoos, which have the initials "WH" in honor of her (their?) late mother Whitney Houston. They were supposedly married last January, but after Bobbi Kristina was found unconcious in a bathtub at her Roswell home, her father Bobby Brown, revealed that the two were not actually married.
No one knew they were dating when they announced they were in love. The two sport matching black stars on their cheeks. The two broke up in November 2012, but were apparently engaged after Deadmau5 proposed to her over Twitter (how romantic). But it was not meant to be as the two officially called it quits in 2013.
Jay and Bey are music royalty as far as the world's concerned, so when they each got the roman numeral IV drawn on their ring fingers back in 2007, no one even batted an eyelash. In fact, that number has a lot of significance for the couple. "We all have special numbers in our lives, and four is that for me," Beyonce has said. "It’s the day I was born, my mother’s birthday, and a lot of my friends’ birthdays are on the fourth; April 4 is my wedding date."
The two are still going strong after the birth of Blue Ivy in 2012 and another baby along the way. They truly are a power couple.
The two got tattoos of each other’s names - Amy’s on her lapel and Blake’s behind his ear. The couple was married in 2007. But their marriage was not without controversy, especially with their reported drug use. They later on divorced in 2009. It was speculated that Amy was in the works of getting her “Blake” tattoo removed before her unexpected passing in 2011.
The couple met in 2008 and got tattoos of each other’s first initial, believing their love to last forever, but soon broke up in 2006. Evan began dating Marilyn Manson for some time before they too broke up. She got back together with Jamie and the two married in 2010. It should have been a happy ending. But, alas, it was not meant to be as they split up again, in good terms for the sake of their son, in 2014.
The couple married in 2008. Probably believing that they were going to last forever, they had decided to get matching tattoos. Mariah declared her married status with a "Mrs. Cannon" tattoo on her lower back, and Nick was marked with a huge "Mariah" on his back. Sadly, the couple split up in 2014 and filed for divorce. Nick covered up his "Mariah" tattoo with a crucifix
The football player and former Spice Girl married in 1999. While Victoria dons a simple “DB” on her wrist, David really wants to tell the world of his love for his wife. He not only has one, but two tattoos! One with Victoria’s name on his hand that he got in 2013. The other is a photo of Victoria wearing lingerie that he got in 2007. Talk about declaration of love!
Although the couple’s marriage in 2014 was full of controversy due to Sheenae’s young age, the two are still clearly in love. So in love that they had each other’s names tattooed to the back of their ears. It’s still a fairly new marriage, so we’ll see what happens in the next few years.
The actress and the basketball star married in 2007 and got matching tattoos their wedding date on their wrists. They also have inks of Tony’s jersey number (“nine”), Eva’s on the back of her neck and Tony’s on his hand. Their marriage seemed to last forever, until they divorced in 2011 after Eva accused Tony of cheating on her with a teammate’s wife.
Everyone thought they were going to last forever, and so did they. They even got tattoos of their favorite Theodore Roosevelt quote on their arms (nothing says romance than a pep talk from one of our country’s beloved past president). Liam’s arm has the first part of the quote "If he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly" and Miley’s has the second "So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat."But we guess even ol' Pres. Roosevelt could not keep the two together as they eventually called off their engagement.
After getting engaged in 2010, the couple got matching sanskrit tattoos of the phrase “Go With The Flow.” Alas, after being married for 14 months, the two eventually divorced. Guess each other’s flow wasn’t much to go with.
The couple has been dating for a year, but a week ago, they posted their new matching skull and crossbone tattoos Instagram. It looks like the two are going strong, if their cute couple photos on Instagram are an indication. Fingers crossed that they stay that way!
Right after dating, the duo had each other’s nicknames tattooed on their fingers — "Amb" on Khalifa and "Cam" on Amber. After the birth of their son, the two married in 2013 and seemed to live in happy marriage bliss… until Amber filed for divorce in 2014. It seemed like the love and affection they had was replaced by accusations and bitterness. However, just a few weeks ago, the two were spotted going to an Easter party with their son and being very affectionate. Looks like those tattoos are not quite a regret yet.