"Like Crazy:" Why Long-Distance Relationships Don't Work

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Felicity Jones and Anton Yelchin in Like Crazy
In "Like Crazy," an expired student visa strands two young lovers in a long-distance relationship.

There are a few rules I absolutely know to be true in relationships. One, if a guy cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. Two, one person in the relationship is always more committed than the other. And three, long-distance relationships don't work.

The hardest realization has probably been the last one. In September 2005, I moved to New York right out of college, leaving my boyfriend of three years behind. By the time he visited in October, we'd forgotten our rhythm as a couple. By November, I started seeing someone else. We officially broke up in December. Orgasms Make Couples More Likely To Want Babies

Years later, I began a romance with a backpacking filmmaker who visited Manhattan briefly. We called and IMed and emailed furiously, counting the days until he settled here for good. He came back for New Year's, bringing a lot of baggage — physical and emotional — that I hadn't realized he had. We rang 2009 in with a bust and never really spoke again. Now my most long-distance relationships span Manhattan to Brooklyn.

So yeah. I went into Like Crazy not bitter, not bitter at all.

In the movie, Anna (Felicity Jones) and Jacob (Anton Yelchin) attend college together in L.A. One day, Anna leaves a love note on Jacob's car windshield. He calls her and they go out for bashful conversation. Anna shares her whiskey and poetry. Jacob takes it all in as they listen to Paul Simon. They fall in skinny-jeaned love, the kind just begging to be captured via Instagram.

Maybe it was my cynicism or poor attention span, but I couldn't tell how long Jacob and Anna had dated before graduation. But they did, in a carefree, dreamy way that you may have heard about once in a Deathcab for Cutie song. Anna's adorable and perfect... and British, so of course her student visa expires. 4 Ways To Avoid A Quickie Marriage Like Zooey Deschanel's

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