As documented in a recent article on YourTango, "The Rise Of The Sugar Mama," the age of the female gold digger is over. These days it's men who are dating women for their money. So how do you know if a man is after you or your wallet? The YourTango Experts sound in with seven signs he's dating you for your money.
1. You've got sugar-mama potential. Whether you're a partner in a law firm, a successful entrepreneur or simply one of the many women who is very good at her job and is well-compensated for her skills, any lady of means is a possible sugar mama.
It's not just women who are successful in business. Recent widows and divorcees can become providers as well.
"Perhaps [the potential sugar mama's] spouse has died and she was left a significant amount of money. Sometimes she is financially secure due to her divorce settlement. Other times, she's the successful career woman," says dating and relationship coach Julie Spira, author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.
2. He pays for things…at first. "If the person is a true gold digger, it can be hard to tell in the beginning because they often are putting on a full-court press in order to win you," says psychologist Dr. Diana Kirschner, author of Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love.
"These charming men woo the women and initially pay for things as part of the courtship," confirms Spira. "Often they will pretend to have their own money, but in reality, they are borrowing from Visa to pay Mastercard to finance the relationship until you're hooked." This Kind Of Couple Fights Most About Money