Men appreciate the art of flirting just as much as women do. So, get your game on, girl!
So when it comes to flirting, logic may (incorrectly) tell you that men love nothing more than a no-nonsense shoulder tap and head nod to the nearest hotel. Why flirt when you can just get down to business? Right?
But, in reality, men take flirting just as seriously as us women ... and they love the subtle dance as much as we do. So, here are five types of flirting guys go ga-ga for. Try them out the next time a goodlooking man catches your eye.
1.) The innocent "hi"
If you aren't learned scholar in the school of flirting, no worries. One universal among all men surveyed is how much they love it when a woman takes control and makes the first move. Think: eye contact. Think: be friendly. Think: smile. "Just come over and say hi," says Adam. "I really don't need a lot. Smiling works wonders ... I don't see how you can go wrong with that tactic, just as long as you open with something friendly and funny."
2.) Playful teasting
No need to impress the tall, dark handsome guy in the corner with your impressive knowledge of Nietzsche (save it for the first date); instead gently poke fun and laugh. Never act like a ditz, but do playfully tease. Men bond with each other this way, so trust me, his feelings won't get hurt. "I love it when a girl rips on me," says Nick. "Be playful, entertaining. You want to keep things upbeat."
3.) Find him interesting
After you've said hello and shared a laugh, engage him in a conversation and actually listen to what he says. "I hate it when I talk to a girl and I feel like she isn't really listening to anything I say," Brian says. "Almost like she's just pausing and waiting to talk again." A good rule is to ask as many questions as you answer. You won't earn points by trying to trump his IQ (or anyone else's) with your own, but it also won't hurt to offer some open-minded insight into the topic he raised. "I love it when a woman has something interesting to say," Bert says.
4.) "Do you workout?"
After you've poked fun at his girly drink and listened to his take on the oil spill, give him the eye and ask, "What's your workout regime? You look great." Feel a bit cliche? Maybe. But while most men don't spend hours in front of the mirror beating themselves up because they don't look like David Beckham, when it comes to his body, flattery will get you everywhere. "I know I'm not the best-looking dude," says Ivan. "But if a girl compliments my arms or says it looks like I take care of myself, or anything really, then I know it's working for her, and that's all that matters."
5.) Subtle touch
If you haven't already, lightly touch his arm, leg or the small of his back. But don't (we repeat, don't) be too forceful. "I can't stand it when a girl is too aggressive physically," says Brian. "Too much is made about ALL guys being horn dogs, so girls get the impression that the sluttier they act, the better. So not true." A simple light touch his arm when you laugh at his joke is all that's needed to let him know you're interested, ladies. Don't paw all over the poor guy.
What are your go-to flirting techniques?