Is h-spot's x-rated sex ed DVD a worthy investment for better sex?
By Steph Auteri — Written on Aug 10, 2010
How does your partner generally go about seducing you? Is it a slow seduction? Does he connect with you on an intellectual level before trying to connect his lips with yours—or does he maul your face while sticking his hand down your pants? Assuming he's made it to your bedroom, does he know how to work you into a lather, making sure you're fully aroused before doing the deed?
If your guy isn't exactly Casanova in bed, we have to ask: Have you told him what gets you hot? Have you tried to subtly direct him with a light touch or some dirty talk? Have you attempted to educate him at all about what brings you pleasure? Or have you just crossed your fingers, hoping that he'd eventually bumble into the status of sex stud and get it right? 4 Signs He'll Be Good In Bed
We're of the mind that ladies are responsible for their own pleasure... after all, the guys can't read our minds! But it certainly couldn't hurt if a guy went to great lengths to educate himself. To that end, the male-friendly sex ed purveyors over at h-spot have created a how-to-please-a-woman sex ed DVD: How Players Do It.
What's on the DVD? Aside from some on-the-street interviews with women on what men are doing wrong, How Players Do It provides step-by-step instructions on how to seal the deal, starting with the very first kiss, moving on to other acts of foreplay, and finally ending with full-on intercourse. There's even a "chapter" on anal sex. Oh, and porn. This educational DVD incorporates porn, complete with your typical pornish background music. Best Sex Ed For Adults
What has h-spot done right, and why might this DVD appeal to the man in your life?
1. While a woman might pick up a how-to book (we highly recommend books like Moregasm and Because It Feels Good), men are more visual creatures, and watching a DVD could possibly be a more effective way for them to learn, absorb and remember those sexy lessons.
2. This DVD is anything but boring. Rather, it has a sense of humor.
3. h-spot knows its audience. In a brilliant move, this sex guide incorporates explicit imagery and—we'll say it again—porn. Could More Porn Actually Make Us Healthier?
Beautiful people having sex? Laughs? The secrets to pleasing a woman? What more could a man want? But while we enjoyed How Players Do It (this Love Buzzer actually left her copy in the DVD player for her husband; call it continuing education) would men be into this? Would it even occur to them that they needed such a thing, and would they feel weird about buying it? The folks over at h-spot also mentioned that 20 percent of their sales have been to women, so clearly a decent percentage of men are getting into the X-rated, er, instructional nature of the video.
One man I know said he'd only be interested if it was nine-tenths porn, one-tenth sex ed. Another mentioned that most guys would probably be too proud to ask for advice, but that it's nice to have an option like this that also incorporated the opportunity for some solo sexual stimulation. And our own Tomfoolery conceded that the laughs could be a big draw, considering the popularity of porn that spoofs popular movies. What I Learned From Watching 500 Adult Films
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Men: would you be interested in a product like this? Women: would you be down with buying this for your partner?
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