I remember watching an episode of "Oprah" where Oprah and her pal Gayle King were driving across the United States. I heard that Oprah swore she’d never do this again, which is not surprising coming from someone who has her own luxury jet. I can’t fathom the road trip idea was Oprah’s, but it did offer some interesting encounters.
One of those encounters happened when Oprah and Gayle had lunch with an Amish married couple at their home. One aspect of this Amish couple’s life that Gayle couldn’t wrap her mind around was that they had had sex with only each other and actually found the idea of lifelong monogamy satisfying. Imagine that. A couple that had no desire to have sex with anyone else. Ever. The Amish woman wisely observed that she would have more misgivings to live the opposite way—to have multiple partners rather than monogamy. Marriage Rules That Are Made To Be Broken
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What a bad boring rap monogamy has in our sex-saturated society. We live in a society that values multiple sex partners and ignores the richness of monogamous marital sex. This isn't to say married sex is perfect. I used to hate married sex. When I was married for the first time long ago, sex was a bit of an issue. And before that I did the casual sex thing, only to discover what many others discover (but rarely admit), sex outside the covenant of marriage leaves in its path a battlefield of emotional, physical and spiritual wreckage.
As much as society tries to paint a different picture, the potential for the best sex is within marriage. Notice I didn’t say "easiest" sex. Anything great worth having takes effort and investment, qualities usually void in the casual sex arena. Great sex within marriage? For me, this means the opportunity for my husband and me to genuinely learn about each other over many sexual encounters. It is about the sanctity and safety of a commitment that frees a couple to truly be vulnerable and to figure out what turns each other on and brings about intense pleasure. Sex and Intimacy
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If married couples really wanted to combat the devastation of sexual immorality, they would begin in their own homes by fostering incredibly vulnerable and authentic sexual intimacy with their spouse. Then (with wise discretion and respect) they would unabashedly admit that they actually like sex and that it is an integral and valued part of their relationship. And if it is not a rich part of their relationship, they would do all they could to figure out why, and then based on what they discover, they would do all they could to bring about healthy patterns of nurtured intimacy.
Yes, I love sex. Any other wives out there share my sentiments on this?