One reader asks:
"One of the reasons I married my partner was because I believed he would be a great father. Now that we have a 2-year-old, I am underwhelmed—and disappointed—by his parenting skills. He often gets frustrated with our son, takes our son's outbursts personally, and gives in the towel too early and turns on the TV to quiet him. It has really affected how I view him as a life partner and even how much I respect him as a person. What's the best way to turn things around?"
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Parenting styles always vary—sometimes a lot and, if you're lucky, only a little bit. Some individual parents have more experience, education and inherent abilities than others. This young mother appears to have some significant differences with her husband regarding the right and wrong way to parent.
Well, here is a way to think about this. Couples frequently make the mistake of thinking their co-parent is wrong when, in fact, s/he is just different. It is an important distinction when you are trying to work cooperatively with another person.
Let's define wrong vs. different. Wrong applies to things that are dangerous: leaving a child in a car by himself, not monitoring your toddler near the pool or lake. Different applies to: putting a child in front of a TV or organic vs. not organic foods. Some of us take these differences very seriously—because our child's well-being is at stake. However, if you want to work cooperatively, it is important to distinguish between different vs. wrong. Most of the disagreements parents have are really about differences.
I think moms usually come into parenting with more training than dads, so I'll talk about this issue that way.