Reaching our mid-30s can be fabulous. That's something we learned from watching our girls in Sex and The City.
Except when our birthday finally dawns on us, we start to look at our future and think about how quickly this age crept up on us — and how quickly the next year will, too. And for women, the aging worries seem to be less about wrinkles or becoming a cougar or no longer being asked for ID.
What often crowds our minds are our biological clocks. By age 30 and continuing into our 40s, all we can hear is a faint, imaginary murmur from our anxious tubes: tick-tock, tick-tock. It's this "sound" that, according to research from the University of Texas-Austin, drives us to "capitalize on our remaining childbearing years."
In layman's terms, as we age, we more have sex — and lots of it. Although there's a little Samantha Jones in all of us (maybe a lot for some of us), the study attributes "adventurous bedroom behavior" not to our upbringing or racy TV show, but to low fertility.
The study, published in Personality and Individual, found women between ages 27 to 45 (those in the "low fertility" category) to possess a "heightened sex drive in response to their dwindling fertility," as these women are "more likely to have frequent sexual fantasies, an active sex life, and a willingness to have casual sex."
"Our findings suggest that women don't necessarily go 'baby crazy' in their 30s or go around thinking they're supposed to be having a 'sexual peak,'" Judith Easton, one psychologist said. "Our results suggest there is nothing special about the 30s, but that instead these behaviors manifest in all women with declining fertility."
So, our desire to have sex, at least past age 27, is driven more by nature and less by nurture, it seems. Isn't it nice to have science remind us of our animal nature just when technology, modern medicine, and all our human rituals let us nearly forget where we came from?
We were shocked to know our fertility starts declining as early as age 27. Can't nurture have a little talk with nature to get our biological and sociological clocks in sync?