7 Ways To Stay Sexy After Menopause


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Even after menopause, it's possible to have an active, healthy sex life.

As we lucky ladies reach our middle years, it's as inevitable as death and taxes that we'll experience menopause. Taken from the Greek words "pausis" (cessation) and the "men" from mensis (month), menopause literally means reaching one's last menstrual period. Hooray! No more cramping and tampons!

On the downside, your body experiences a depletion of estrogen that leads to hot flashes, mood and sleeping problems, not to mention a lack of moistness down below. Due to a toxic mix of bodily and hormonal changes, many women find their sexuality—physically and emotionally—dwindling. So is there a way to still feel sexy when your body's grappling to adjust to menopause? Absolutely. Here are 7 pointers.


1.) Focus on The Brain: Women have always been (and will always be) a cerebral bunch when it comes to sex. This is a cardinal truth from age 17 to 70, but focusing on the emotional side of foreplay has never been so important as in the years during and after menopause. Husbands and boyfriend need to know that it's just going to take their women a little longer to get revved up.  The (Very Sexy) Benefits Of An Empty Nest

"Desire, for women, is complex, and after menopause it's even more so," says Dr. Dorree Lynn, author of Sex for Grownups: Dr. Dorree Reveals the Truths, Lies, and Must-Tries for Great Sex After 50. "Women need to feel desired. Sexuality starts in the brain not in the genitals, foreplay starts in the morning with an 'I Love You.'" 

Dr. Barbra DePree, a gynecologist and creator of MiddlesexMD.com thinks once a women reaches menopause she needs to become more "mindful" of what she needs from sex and not be afraid to ask for it.

"Sex after menopause may take some re-tooling," she says. Due to loss of estrogen and vaginal dryness "physiologically things aren't going to respond as easily. Women need to view their sexuality in a more broad sense." As Dr. Lynn says: "You have to be your own investigator. Investigate the murder of your own hormones."

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