Why Your Ex Should Stay In Your Past

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It's natural to miss your ex, but you shouldn't always act on that old, familiar feeling.

Getting back together with an ex, haven't we all considered it at one point or another? It would be so easy to slip right back into that comfortable routine, picking right back up where you left off. Or not. Here are 10 very, very, very good reasons not to back for round two at the ex-boyfriend buffet. The Frisky: Dear Wendy: When Exes Rear Their Ugly Heads

1. His quirks are no longer adorable—they're annoying.
Back then, it was kind of cute that he was incapable of being on time; now it's a major pain in the ass. You used to aww at the way he ate his spaghetti, but these days it just grosses you out. And his love for comic books, while once sweet and boyish, is just further evidence of his immaturity. These things don't get any cuter with time, sister.

 

2. The fights are the same.
He still thinks you're a nag. You can't stand that he gets so sloppy drunk. He thinks you overreact to every little thing, while you find his aloofness during an argument to be downright cruel. Often couples who are considering a reconciliation focus only on the good times; but what about the many, many times you wanted to kill each other. If you're fighting over the same crap—or the stuff that you fought over are still issues—move on.

3. The physical attraction just isn't there.
To a certain degree, don't we all still kind of love our exes? But that doesn't mean we're still turned on by them. Look, desire changes over the course of a relationship, but if you look at your ex and nothing happens below the belt and you can relate to one or all of the other reasons on this list, go put your cooter to work with someone else.

4. Other options have got your attention.
Sure you still care about your ex. But have you developed crushes on others? Been dating or have an urge to keep dating other people? Don't put your ex through a reunion if you're still sifting through your other options. The Frisky: 5 Reasons Not To Defriend Your Ex

5. One of the main issues is insurmountable.
There are some things people can agree to change about them for the sake of a relationship. Couples can work out a compromise so that both parties are satisfied. But there are some issues that cannot be talked through or ignored in perpetuity; he doesn't want kids, you do. You're looking for someone who intellectually challenges you, he's a dumb ass. This ship has sailed, darlin'.

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