NPR recently featured a story on people who have Williams syndrome, a rare genetic disorder that makes it biologically impossible to distrust others. That is, they suffer an imbalance of oxytocin, a hormone that the brain generates after perceiving a non-threatening situation. Learning To Trust Again
Although the story focused primarily on children's trust in strangers and on society's trust in the government, it inspired the question of how we perceive the trustworthiness of desirable strangers. When we date someone new, how do we gauge their trustworthiness? How do we even know that our "trust radar" is functioning properly? 7 Ways To Stay Positive About Dating
Unfortunately, we often come to question a partner's trustworthiness after a relationship where trust was broken.Thankfully, there are ways to prevent that from happening again—without becoming a total neurotic. The next time you're considering putting your heart on the line, we suggest you simply ask yourself the following questions:
1. How long have I known this person? If you're having trouble trusting the guy you've known for five years, but only recently have started to date, ask yourself why. Conversely, if you don't fully trust the guy you really like, but met only a month ago, you probably have a healthy balance of openness and discernment.
2. How do I know this person? Someone you met through a friend may be more trustworthy than a stranger you met at a club two weekends prior.
3. Do I know this person's relationship track record? What kind of women does he typically date? Why and how did his last relationship end?
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