It's finally happened. You've met the One. And—wonder of wonders—he thinks you're the One as well! He finds you fascinating, beautiful and amazing—but he's not the only person you have to impress. While you shouldn't give up on love just because his mom gives you the stink-eye, chances are your guy would prefer it if you were all one big, happy family. Because, when it comes down to it, do you really want to make him choose sides? (Hint: No.) Thank god you have us. Here are the top 10 ways to make his family love you. — Steph Auteri
1. Show up. If you put off meeting his parents, they will assume you're avoiding them. Not only that, but they'll also assume that you don't value family. Uh oh. Cheerfully accept dinner invitations, and take part in regular family traditions. You may hate that annual two-hour round trip to cut down the famiy Christmas tree, but he's been making that trip his entire life, and he totally looks forward to the apple cider donuts and the stop for lunch at Hot Dog Johnny's. If you grin and bear it, not only will he appreciate it, but his family will start to treat you as one of their own.
2. Offer to help out. Over at their house for a dinner party? Offer to put together cheese platters and/or clear the table. Meeting them at a BYOB restaurant? Bring along that great bottle of Chambourcin you picked up from a local winery just the other weekend. Is his little sis applying to post-college jobs for the first time? Ask if she'd like you to take a look at her resume, or help her with cover letters. They'll love the fact that you're making an effort.
3. Invite them to dinner. His fam is always inviting you over for dinner. Not only that, but they also send you home with five tupperwares full of delicious leftovers. We suggest you repay the favor, and cook them a gourmet meal of your own. Not only will this show them how grateful you are for their generosity, but it will also allow them to see that you're fully capable of someday taking care of their darling, adorable baby boy.
4. Be thoughtful. Make the effort to remember and honor his family members' birthdays, successes and other milestones with thoughtful gestures or gifts. While a bottle of wine is a cool gift if his parents are really into tastings (pair it with a nice wine journal for extra bonus points!), in any other situation, it's a sign that you're just not trying. Pay attention to their interests and shop accordingly.
5. Show an interest in their lives. The tip above will be way easier to execute if you're already engaging his family members in convos about their hobbies and interests. Is his big sis into cruises and country music? Sit through a slideshow of her vacation pics, or go line dancing with her when she extends the invite. Is his dad a runner? Travel up to Boston to cheer him on when he runs the annual marathon. If you show an interest in them, they'll be more willing to learn more about you, even if your hobbies consist of hoop dancing and sex writing.
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