Several Hollywood stars have recently commented on Mo'Nique's confession that she and Sidney Hicks have an open marriage. Some celebrities, Gabourey Sidibe, Mo'Nique's co-star in Precious, reacted nonchalantly. "It's not really news to have an open marriage and open communication marriage," she told Access Hollywood.
Others, like The View's Sherri Shepherd, were quick to admit that they couldn't do it. "Apparently, you don't know why I got divorced," she said. Is Mo'Nique's Open Relationship Sexist?
Whatever the case, the blogosphere is now abuzz with conversation about open marriages, which have been around for thousands of years, but have only reentered the spotlight thanks to marriages like Mo'Nique's. After combing YourTango's archives for first-hand accounts from couples in open marriages, we decided to shed some light on the most common misconceptions about polyamorous marriages:
1. Open marriages are all about sex.
More than anything, they are about honesty and communication. Many polyamorous couples, such as YourTango blogger Jenny Block and her husband, struggled more with secret affairs than with the extramarital activity itself. In "Open Marriage Is Not A Fad," Jenny said: "Controlling one's sexuality is no longer the cornerstone of the relationship. Instead, love and trust and intimacy are."
As Mo'Nique told Barbara Walters, "Oftentimes, people get into marriages and they don't know who they're laying next to. I'm very comfortable and secure with my husband."
2. Both partners have multiple lovers.
While both she and her husband are free to conduct extramarital affairs, Mo'Nique has refrained from having sex with other people. Jenny Block, on the other hand, has a girlfriend, while her husband admits that he is too shy to pick up other girls. In either case, though, the roaming parties are upfront with their partners on their activities outside of the marriage. 7 Tips for Beginning an Open Relationship
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