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Sex After 40 Is Smoking

The most sizzling sex may be happening with middle-aged lov-ahs. Take that young Hollywood!

The female psyche will never recover from the pop cultural icon that was (is) Sex and the City's Samantha Jones.

There she was. A blissfully single and liberated woman pushing fifty, who had zero desire to allow conventional wisdom or age slow her sexual prowess. (Not to mention tarnish her good looks.)

Women. Everywhere. Ate. It. Up.

The appeal was undeniable for lots of reasons, but Samantha Jones certainly took the edge off female aging. She made sex after forty seem not only attainable, normal, and smoking hot but aged to perfection. Like a fine wine.

Britain's Sun attempted to put a damper on this particular female fantasy by reporting some random skin care survey saying "younger" women have sex 10.4 times a month and "older" women only 4.5 times a month.

Wisely, the paper chose to consult with three women over 40 to find if they're less, more or equally as sexually satisfied as when they were younger, "slimmer" whipper-snappers.

Survey said? Hands down. Sex after forty is best. By a long shot. It just seems to get better for women, they say. Mostly because of our pesky body issues (stop it girls!) and other inane insecurities. Ironically, our bodies are probably at their most conventionally attractive. (Unless you're Jennifer Aniston) So cut it out ladies.

Sarah Bennet, a 42-year-old mother of two, still doesn't feel like she's hit her sexual peak.  As did all three women, she complained about low self- esteem as a twenty-something. She'd have sex "just for the sake of it" because she wanted guys to like her.  Now she's "more able to talk about what she likes and doesn't like." And still enjoys the random one night stand every once in a while, too.

Deborah Crew, a happily married 47-year-old avoided sex while in her 20s due to a nasty bout of anorexia. She was needy and insecure (i.e.. not sexual). After a failed marriage, she met her current husband who "loves every wrinkle and line." The unconditional love makes her feel all warm and fuzzy, and her increased work success makes her "ooze sexual confidence. "She and her husband have sex as often as possible, she says.

Lastly, Ann Lee a 49-year-old single mother of two, says "without a doubt, sex gets better as you get older. It's all to do with confidence." Although she's "bigger" she's much happier and more comfortable in her skin as she approaches fifty. She married and had children young, but thinks back on the sex with the ex as "functional" and "probably wasn't great for either of us." She attributes her fantastic sex life not to feeling secure in her current relationship.

Can you relate?

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Lyz Married Community Manager
Posted July 30, 2009

Hooray! This is why I can't wait to get older. I know that sounds crazy, but older women are so lovely and confident. Sign me up.

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babbasand Complicated 51 better than ever
Can Relate - Posted July 30, 2009

Totally true, before I got divorced 10 years ago I was under the impression that is it why are people so crazy about sex. Well than I met a man and slowly but surely and introduced me to mind blowing sex. Never in my wildest dreams I thought this was possible.

Year after year I am thinking o my god it still gets better. Sometimes I think well this got to beit it can't get better but again not true. Now I am 51 and still have the sex of my liefe

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nubiancoco Single
Posted January 21, 2009

I AM OVER 4O WHERE IS ALL THE GREAT SEX AT I WANT SOME. LOL

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debbie Single
Posted January 8, 2009

i totally agree being 50 my sex life is now much better then when i was married .i was married for 23yrs and the sex was good but i had a diffucult time having an orgasm vaginally my x liked anual sex , he turned me onto it and i like it too. this guy i have been dating for three months is 55 he is a stud! we are really compatiable together. i am now experiencing awesome orgasms when he enters me we are able to orgasm together . i do not have any hang ups about my body i have accepted the fact that i have a belly from menopause and i do sweat more than usual and had difficultly having a orgasm until my gynocologist told me to get a vitamin called dhea due to menopause it has helped immensely. i can have 3 orgasms and he loves it not only that but he is a great lover and i am a lucky woman! i hopt this advice has helped .

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