I've learned a few things about love in my time here on Earth, and one of them is that relationships built on sex usually don't last. First, no matter how cool she is, no matter how good-looking she is and no matter how much you dig her, there is someone out there who is sick of her. (This probably applies to guys as well.) Second, there is a very good chance that when a guy begins drifting away from a lady, he's just sick of boning her. (Again, it's possible that ladies stray for the same reason, but being a guy, I really can't be sure.) Read: Why Powerful Men Cheat
Shocking, no? But it happens. Oftentimes, a relationship will begin on the concept of mutual attraction, loneliness or general horniness. A couple of kooky kids will decide they really like making sweet lust to each other even though they don't have that much in common. After a while, the sex will go stale and there's only so many times you can say, "Did you read what Thomas Friedman said today about the economy/environment/Middle East peace process?"
The film Speed ends with the Keanu character telling the Sandra Bullock character that a relationship can't survive if it's based on a traumatic moment, so she proposes to make it about sex…and he's replaced by Jason Patric in the sequel. Coincidence? Contract dispute? Or was his character just sick of sexing up her character? Read: The Real Reasons Men Break Up With Women
Many people advocate waiting a bit before hopping into bed with someone. The conventional wisdom is that this prevents disease and makes men stick around longer. My friends Matt & Tamsen suggest holding off 90 days before working on the night moves. While that may seem a bit extreme, even three months of bed-breakingly love-jonesing courtship doesn't guarantee you won't drift apart when the sex goes bland. But it does keep you from adding another notch to your belt from someone who won't work out. Read: The Smoking-Hot Reason To Avoid First-Date Sex
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