I've been watching rom-coms my entire life. We all have. We know the couple will end up together but we relish the drama anyway, and while it seems like harmless fun, they've given us a terrible blueprint for how to date. I admit that I'm indoctrinated, but at least I've come to recognize it.
I'm not talking about the no-brainers. Everybody knows that you don't wake up one day and realize you love your best dude friend. I'm talking about the stuff that you may not even think you learned from Eternal Sunshine, but that you're secretly sabotaging your relationships because of Kate Winslet. Lemondrop: The New Hollywood Heartthrob: The Nice Guy
Here are four things I've discovered that Hollywood is miserably wrong about.
Rule #1: All a girl really needs is a sweet, goofy guy.
We've all been in terrible relationships. They may be abusive, or they may just be quietly unhappy. If you subscribe to the idea set forth by dozens of romantic movies, some slightly daffy guy is eventually going to come along, fall in love with all of your imperfections and make you realize how special you are. Movies reinforce the belief that women should wait around for some deus ex machina in the form of a charming, worshipful dude to validate our existences and prove that somebody will ultimately accept us and all of our foibles. It's like a kind of castrated knight-in-shining-armor deal. Every woman wants to think that some nice guy will rescue her from the sea of a-holes. But, ladies, if your dating life sucks, work to make it better yourself. Don't wait for somebody to come along and complete you. Lemondrop: The Worst Boyfriends From Television and Movies
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Written by Emily Gordon for Lemondrop.