How To Please Yourself "Down There"


Contrary to popular belief, your body is nothing to be ashamed about. Getting to know what your likes and dislikes are in the bedroom can be incredibly helpful in the future when you're ready to take things to the next level with your special guy. When it comes to the do's and don'ts of female masturbation, it's important to make sure that you are comfortable. Not only are these tips incredibly helpful for anyone who is nervous about going solo for the first time, they will also help ensure that it is done safely.

One of our readers asked "I've never really explored my own body 'down there' if you know what I mean. I'm eager to give it a try, but, embarrassingly, I don't know where to start. Any tips?" The first step is to apply pressure to your “pleasure center,” the sensitive part outside your body.  You can try drawing circles with your finger, writing the alphabet, or pretending to paint. The next step is to move your fingers inside. Use a come hither motion to do this. The next step is using the previous steps in various combinations to your own enjoyment. Masturbation is a way to get to know your body. If you know your body well then this will lead to a more exciting sex life.


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Question: I’ve never really explored my own body “down there” if you know what I mean.  I’m eager to give it a try, but, embarrassingly, I don’t know where to start.  Any tips?

Ok ladies.  Let’s get down to business.  Between 20 and 40 percent of us haven’t explored what’s going on between our legs.  And even we who have can always use some tips.  Being able to bring a smile to your own face means having a better time when you’re with your partner. 

Step 1.  Apply pressure to your “pleasure center”.  That sensitive spot on the outside of your body.  Try drawing circles with your finger, writing the alphabet, or pretending to paint.  Step 2.  Move your finger inside.  Using a “come hither” motion just might fulfill that demand.  Step 3.  Use steps 1 and 2 in various combinations until you figure out what feels best for you.  Once you’ve mastered that, move on to step 4.  Give your hand a rest and grab a toy instead.  Alternate with different speeds and be sure to try out different types.  Most importantly, explore, relax, and have some fun finding the best way to make yourself pop.

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