The YourTango team answers a question from Ask YourTango, where readers go to seek out advice on love and relationships. This informative video provides some insight on the do's and don'ts of masturbating for the first time. Not only are these tips incredibly helpful for anyone who is nervous about self-pleasuring, they help ensure that it is done safely.

Question: "I've never really explored my own body 'down there' if you know what I mean. I'm eager to give it a try, but, embarrassingly, I don't know where to start. Any tips?"

Check out the video for awesome tips on how to maximize pleasure the right way!


Question: I’ve never really explored my own body “down there” if you know what I mean.  I’m eager to give it a try, but, embarrassingly, I don’t know where to start.  Any tips?

Ok ladies.  Let’s get down to business.  Between 20 and 40 percent of us haven’t explored what’s going on between our legs.  And even we who have can always use some tips.  Being able to bring a smile to your own face means having a better time when you’re with your partner. 

Step 1.  Apply pressure to your “pleasure center”.  That sensitive spot on the outside of your body.  Try drawing circles with your finger, writing the alphabet, or pretending to paint.  Step 2.  Move your finger inside.  Using a “come hither” motion just might fulfill that demand.  Step 3.  Use steps 1 and 2 in various combinations until you figure out what feels best for you.  Once you’ve mastered that, move on to step 4.  Give your hand a rest and grab a toy instead.  Alternate with different speeds and be sure to try out different types.  Most importantly, explore, relax, and have some fun finding the best way to make yourself pop.

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