Blow Jobs Are Overrated
Believe it or not, some men are just not into oral sex.
Blow jobs are overrated. There. I said it. I know men who would fight a grizzly bear with a spork for a little mouth love. I also know women who guard their oral sexing technique the way a pharmaceutical company protects its most precious patents. But I'm just not a dude who loves blow jobs. I'm an active guy, when it comes to being intimate with a woman, and laying back and letting her go down on me has always felt passive to me. Disconnected. As if I could lean back and read The Economist or slurp a bowl of soup while being, uhhh, serviced. The Frisky: What's Your Most Embarassing Sex Moment?
It feels good, sure. But not that good. I can't get off if she's all the way down there. I need her eyes, her mouth, her words, to really achieve anything that can reasonably be defined as sexual satisfaction. For the record, feeling sexually "satisfied" is very underrated. That deeply comforting post-coital buzz that can only come when one's appetite is blissfully sated.
Am I the only dude who feels this way? I mean, I think I am. There are plenty of women who dislike men going down on them, which is something I enjoy doing. That might be hypocritical, but it just is. I don't really have a sweet tooth, but I enjoy making a mean chocolate pecan pie. There are other things I'd rather do with a lover than getting a "knobber." The Frisky: 10 Things Women Don’t Understand About Men
I know what you're thinking. That this is some clever, douche-tastic ploy to get a blow job. Women are aloof and bashful when it comes to their sexual egos, unlike men. Yes, it's an example of the unfairness of gender politics. Women are embarrassed by their desires; men flaunt them. But women have huge egos when it comes to pleasing their men. I floated my thoughts for this column past a female friend of mine, that I thought blow jobs were overrated, and her half-joking instinctual response was, "Well, I'll show you."
Every woman I have dated has come to the table with her own trademarked methods: some of them the result of experience, some of them experiments to be tossed aside or added to their internal, carnal repertoire. It's hilarious and utterly endearing. They've shown off double-fist techniques, road-tested tongue twirls, tried different rhythms. Some ignore the testicles, some are all about them. I knew a chick who sincerely loved to give head. Her choreography was a well-timed ballet of strokes, deep-throating, tickling, and unparalleled tongue acrobatics. You know that trashy trick when a woman ties a cherry stem into a knot with her mouth? This woman could eat a ball of paper and spit out an origami swan.
Discussion
I really can't relate! Perhaps I have been fortuneate throughout my sexual career, but it has always been a part of the activity from a willing partner. Although I must note that my ex wife did not like it performed on her, and as our marriage deteriorated she performed less on me.
I love oral. Nothing like having a woman "speak into the mike." But, I'm not one way about it. I like to give also. Licking the lollipop isn't a requirement, but I admit that I like it. I love looking down, and the sounds of slurping and slobbering....
Eye conatct can happen during BJ's. If it all has to do with laying there and enjoying a free ride, that is what 69 is for. But seriously everyone has their own cup of tea.
Put me down as one of those guys that just does not enjoy receiving. There's no intimacy in it at all---i just never enjoyed it. It has always surprised, perplexed and delighted some women that they didnt have to perform that way. By the way i don't mind giving.
Honestly speak some of these "trademarked methods" are the problem! Blow Jobs can be very enjoyable but a lot of women may not give good ones. Different guys have different sensitivity. You really have to avoid seeing something in a porn video and replicating. Lord knows sometimes it can even hurt a little but we are to shy to say anything (it's not a hose pipe folks). That can hurt the girls feelings or even ruin the "mood".
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I have met a few guys who felt this way. I have come to appreciate that not all guys are bj freaks and that some men actually feel like it is too impersonal and don't like ladies being so submissive with them. Trust me ladies...if you meet a guy like this...don't throw him back...give him a chance to show you how much he would prefer to pleasure you...the rewards can be greatly worth it!!!
I've never heard of or met a man who didn't enjoy getting head. If he doesn't, it's because he's never gotten great head, not because he doesn't enjoy the act itself
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I agree, blow jobs are somewhat overrated. Some women can give a good one, but, as the author of the article said, you can't be in two places at the same time. He likes kissing and eye contact as well as verbal communication during sex, can't do that with you mouth wrapped around his genitals. Most guys really do love the kissing and eye contact with their partner's, very stimulating, also the caressing of the body is very inviting. My boyfirend enjoys me gently scratching his back with my nails, even takes his shirt off so I can scratch him better. People, learn to communicate with one another and bring imagination to the relationship too. Maybe the author doesn't like blowjobs because of the teeth too. Everybody is different, but, learn to communicate with each other.
So it is true...some men don't like blow jobs. This is truly mind boggling. What I don't agree on is that women are aloof and bashful when it comes to their sexual egos. Mostly, I like to be the dominant one. I like to take control! Why should women be embarrassed by their desires? I believe that if desires aren't expressed...well, men won't know, will they?
