The Real Reasons Women Break Up With Men


The Real Reasons Women Break Up With Men

We always assume that the men are the ones doing the dumping. But there's a fair share of women out there who don't have a problem kicking a guy to the curb. Plenty of females are happy to be single if it means getting rid of a main source of our angst and frustration. Here are eleven reasons we dump men.

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1. He's Moody. One day he's all schmoopy woopy, the next day he gets a hair across his a** because we asked him what was wrong. You think women are moody? I know plenty of guys who switch gears on a daily basis. Guys hate to be poked and prodded to discuss their feelings. We get that. But shouldn't you feel lucky that you have someone in your life that cares enough and is attentive enough to notice a change in your mood and ask what's up? Rather than get testy with us, why not just tell us you're in a mood and would just prefer to sulk for a bit before opening up. Too touchy feely for you? Then just say "I'm okay. Don't worry. Thanks for asking." The thing men should understand about women is that we sense when something is off in a matter of seconds after you step through the door. If you don't want to be asked what's wrong, make a better attempt to hide what ever is bothering you. Don't sulk.

2. He's Bad In Bed. Sometimes the sex is just...bad. I once dated a guy who lived in my apartment building who was this aggressive, hotshot lawyer type. I thought for sure that meant he'd be great in bed. Wow, was I wrong. He was jerky and slow and kinda...sloppy. Fumbling is cute the first time you get it on. But after a few months of sex? It's just awkward. You need to ask us if we like certain moves. Listen to us. Pay attention. If you mentally check out during sex and focus on your orgasm, you're missing all the cues we give you to let you know things are amiss or spectacular. We feel awkward about telling you what works for us and what doesn't. We worry you'll think we've "been around" or we'll offend you. So you have to meet us half way on this by paying closer attention and being connected with us in bed. Listen to us if we say we don't like something. Don't tell yourself we'll eventually see the light and realize how amazing that move is that you do where you ram your finger in our vagina like a tiny jackhammer then swirl it around like you're stirring your coffee with it. If we tell you we didn't like it, we didn't like it. How To Tell Him He's Bad In Bed

3. He's a Caveman. Nothing aggravates me more than the one word answers, grunts or the slow droning of a conversation where you can tell he's distracted and not focused on what you're saying. Okay, so you're not a phone person. That's fine. But do you have to be so obvious about it? If you can't tear yourself away from a game or an article or something...don't answer the phone. Nobody is holding a gun to your head. OK, so your last girlfriend did. But we're not her. Send it to voice mail then text us and say you'll call us when you're through doing whatever you're doing. In other words....C-O-M-M-U-N-I-C-A-T-E. Give us a heads up that you'll be busy so you may not be able to talk much.

4. He Thinks He's a Mind Reader. I HATE when guys decide that they have my intentions all figured out because I called or e-mailed him to confirm plans HE MADE. Guys, we have lives, too. We have jobs, we have friends, we have hobbies. We're planners. Just because we'd like to plan our weekend on Wednesday doesn't mean we're flipping through bridal magazines picking out dresses. Women are always trying to show men that we "get" them by not being too demanding or inquisitive. How about some reciprocity here?

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