I Call My Lover "Daddy"—So What?
Who's your "daddy" in the bedroom?
I am well aware that this predilection elicits a giant "ewwww" from most of the sex-having population, but I have always liked a little "daddy talk" in the bedroom. No, I don't want to have sex with MY father, but using the word, loaded as it is with connotations of power and taboo, gets me unapologetically hot.
According to the recent article "Sick or Sexy? When He's 'Daddy' in the Bedroom," I'm not the only perv enjoying a little faux-incest during sex. MSNBC mostly focuses on new parents who discover their day-to-day nicknames can also spice things up in the bedroom, but if pornography and the ads on Craigslist's Casual Encounters have anything to teach us about it, they're not the only ones who like some paternal pillow talk. Dirty Talk Dos and Don'ts
In my decade of field tests, I have found that Daddy is the one word in the English language with a singular power over young and old men alike. If you have the balls to use it, it can ramp things up to 11 more quickly than dirty lingerie or an offer of anal. (Admittedly, it can also occasionally shut things down reeeeally quickly.)
Sure, my enjoyment of this particular brand of dirty talk probably stems from some deep-seated issues (I also prefer a flabby middle-aged guy to the 25-year-old Adonis anyday), but if I can play them out with consenting adults who are also enjoying themselves, why not?
It probably grosses some people out, but like so much of the weird stuff that bubbles to the top of the murky swamp of psychosexual quirks and kinks, who's it really hurting?
Tell us! Does hearing "Who's your Daddy?" make you cringe or quiver?
Written by Emily McCombs for Lemondrop.
More from Lemondrop:
Discussion
I think this is one of the funniest debates ever. Most women, for whatever reason, look for a man just like their father. Does that mean they want to sleep with their father? No. I'd like to think it's because up until you do get married, your Daddy is the only man in your life. In most relationships, Daddy is the SuperHero. He is the Monster-under-the-bed-slayer. As you get older, he is your homework tutor and mechanic. Eventually he walks you down the aisle and hands you over to the only other man you should revere and trust and love with all of your heart. Your Husband. I don't think it's a perversion, to call your man Daddy. I call my husband Daddy all the time, not only in the bedroom. We have an elderly couple with whom we are dear friends, and the man calls his wife Mother, which is what we all call her. I think the people obsessing over the use of familial pet names are the people with the issues. Why does it affect you the way it does?
I call my boyfriend "Daddy" frequently during sex. His nickname is Sweet Daddy, but that just becomes too much to say just before orgasm.
My boyfriend loves me to call him daddy. I feel silly saying it, but I can see where he's coming from and it makes him wild. I say if you don't wanna do it then don't. It shouldn't be a deal breaker. We've got a pretty big age difference and I understand it makes him remember how young I am, which is what he loves. I like to see him pleased, so I say it. It's a win-win.
don't be so insecure women. First of all you know he's not your daddy! Hello its only as perverted as your little dirty mind takes it. Calling a man daddy, is just to give him that extra dose of power, he feels like he is the ultimates pleaser. Men love feeling like they are doing good, especially when being intimate. So calling your man daddy only spices things up, however dont go calling him daddy if you've only known him a few days. Now that would be creepy, reserve that title for someone who really gets your water boiling. And trust me he will make sure its stays hot all night long.
So long ladies, if you dont call him daddy sometimes, trust me another woman will. Let your man feel like he is the light of your life. You would be happy with the end result
Love (and sex) is a two-way street. If something grosses the woman out, a man isn't going to want it unless he's a jerk.
I hate it when people try to scare women with the idea that you have to do something or another woman will and you'll use your man. If it's that easy to lose him, he doesn't really love you. I'm not talking about women never having sex or being intimate, because that really is a problem. But every woman has particular tastes and things that she finds repellent. Sexual freedom absolutely, positively means the freedom to say no, too. (This applies the other way, too, of course.)
I am also surprised at the idea that men have some special attachment to being talked to this way. I don't think it's some big important desire for most men.
Absolutely agree Book Mama it isn't that easy to lose your man...besides most men really aren't interested in a woman who will do the things his nasty mind can come up with...sometimes it's just the sexiness of asking your perfectly lovely woman to do something a bit off center that is the allure. Men generally don't run off with the first woman who does something kinky....
it makes me cringe. i have problems dating men named "dan" because calling his name out sounds too close to dad.
