The Only Way I Get Off Is To Call My Lover 'Daddy' — So What?

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It probably grosses people out, but who's it really hurting?

I am well aware that women who call their lovers "daddy" elicits a giant "ewwww" from most of the sex-having population, but I have always liked a little "daddy talk" in the bedroom. No, I don't want to have sex with my father, but using the word — loaded as it is with connotations of power and taboo — gets me unapologetically hot.

According to an article titled "Sick or Sexy? When He's 'Daddy' in the Bedroom," I'm not the only perv enjoying a little faux-incest during sex. MSNBC mostly focuses on new parents who discover that their day-to-day nicknames can also spice things up in the bedroom, but if pornography and the ads on Craigslist's Casual Encounters have anything to teach us about it, they're not the only ones who like some paternal pillow talk.

In my decade of field tests, I have found that Daddy is the one word in the English language with a singular power over young and old men alike. If you have the balls to use it, it can ramp things up to 11 more quickly than dirty lingerie or an offer of anal. (Admittedly, it can also occasionally shut things down really quickly.)

Sure, my enjoyment of this particular brand of dirty talk probably stems from some deep-seated issues (I also prefer a flabby middle-aged guy to the 25-year-old Adonis anyday), but if I can play them out with consenting adults who are also enjoying themselves, why not? Even if it might be considered gross or weird, people have all sorts of different preferences in the bedroom, and this one is no different.

It probably grosses some people out, but like so much of the weird stuff that bubbles to the top of the murky swamp of psychosexual quirks and kinks, who's it really hurting?

Written by Emily McCombs

 

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