5 Reasons To Grow Old With Someone


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Aging can be scary, but growing old together is a blessing. Five things to look forward to.

We live in a youth-obsessed society, where knowing that Miley Cyrus has achieved international stardom and success—and she was born in 1992—can make us feel like our most precious years are slipping away. But growing old is not something to fear.

On Monday The New York Times' "The New Old Age" blog published a piece called "6 Reasons To Grow Old," based on advice from Joshua O. Haberman, a 90-year-old rabbi. Sure, your skin may sag, your hands may shake, but growing old comes with great benefits—especially if you have someone to share your time with. Based on their post and on Haberman's observations, we've come up with five reasons it's a blessing to grow old—together.


1. You're no longer attempting to find your perfect love, or your one—because you've already found him or her. "You have achieved in old age what you have wanted to, if you are fortunate,” said Haberman.

2. You accept your spouse's flaws. You learn that you can't change your husband or wife, and you don't have to. The rabbi talks about "liberation from the compulsion to set everyone else straight." "We get less frantic, less pushy in advanced age," he said.

3. You become more conscious of the little things that make your partner great. Haberman says, "One of the most important marks of maturity," is gratitude. "I'm more conscious of the little favors people do." Which Love Language Do You Speak?

4. You have more time to spend with your spouse. You've retired so you can take the vacations you always wanted to, spend hours talking—or being silent—with one another, and bask in the love of your children (if you chose to have them) and grandchildren.

5. You learn to appreciate your spouse more than ever. "Now, that my supply of time has shrunk, I appreciate far more each day, each hour, every bit of new knowledge and every moment with people I care for," said Haberman.

Readers, what do you look forward to, as you grow older?