4 Dating Red Flags Men Look For
Go inside the boys' club: read dating advice written for guys and learn red flags they look for.
Women are the traditional consumers of self-help books, but guys need advice too. And what better way to find out what goes on inside his head than to read dating advice written by and for men? (Some might say you could ask him, but where's the fun in that?)
In this spirit we bring you this piece by men's lifestyle expert, Oliver "Ali" Nejad, who fills you in on four red flags men look for when they're on a date.
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Gentlemen, over the course of our dating careers one of the easiest things we've learned to pick up on are "green flags," or signs that a woman is willing or ready to accept our advances toward her. This is partly because we are constantly looking for these sorts of signs. They lead us to that which we are hoping to experience: a successful romantic pursuit. What we fail to do as well as this however, is look for "red flags," or reasons why we should abandon the SS Future Fling with the fervor of Titanic passengers. Read: 12 Relationship Red Flags
Discussion
Does anyone think that Blackberries and iPhones have created child behavior problems? That could be a red flag.
Yes!! I think that the attachment to pets is a ridiculous social affliction that may go hand in hand with the technology boom. We are just socializing less and hiding behind iphones and laptops instead of being out there talking to people. Facebook can be fun but nothing beats true fun with real people.
Johnboy has this "advice" pegged accurately.
Is the author just plain afraid of women? Maybe he shouldn't date at all until he gets over some of this nonsense. What's a woman supposed to do - seclude herself for the guy and give up all her other interests - there is always a chance the relationship won't last and then what? This is crazy.
If he doesn't like pets, don't date a woman who has one. It's something you find out early in even a casual relationship. Simple!
Jumping the gun on an LTR is the only one that makes sense -and that applies for a woman as well as a man.
I could comment on the other "Red Flags," but I hope men don't take this article's "advice" very seriously. Every relationship is different.
"Pay attention to moments spoiled by her need to get away and feed/water/walk the dog" Yes, because romantic moments are SO much more important than the comfort of your pet. MY red flag? Would be a guy who gave me this as a red flag.
Funny - although the pet thing would be an issue for my guy, he's the one checking his Treo (work stuff and I understand,) and he started talking long term very early on... like where we're going to retire together. It was a bit intimidating, but I knew what he wanted and where I stood with him.
I think of the above points are just common courtesies, and should be observed as matter of course. I love my pets but I wouldn't let them interfere with a romantic evening and if you liked a guy well enough to go out with him, why wouldn't you want to spend your time together getting to know him better? If guys not into you, at least on some level, he wouldn't have asked you out in the first place. As for talk of LTRs, I think it's just scary on first few dates, whichever of you brings it up.
Just my 2 cents worth.
I have a very strong affinity (some might call obsession) with my phone. My guy is fully aware of this and has no problem telling me when he thinks I've had my fix. But I also know when to put it away and devote my time to him.
I don't know too many girls who put their pets above men, but this explains why they tend to have short-lived relationships.
As far as long term relationships, some women are looking for that and are upfront about it, if this isn't what you're looking for, then it's best to just walk away.
And well, a lack of intelligence should have to be tolerated by no one, man OR woman.
A dude says "This is such bad advice"
I have no problem with your pet. None, zip zero. if your pet makes you happy thats way cool. if I like you I'll try to incorporate the pet into our activities.
If your busy and lead a busy life then as long as its mutual you gotta do what you gotta do . However, that goes both ways. If it gets to be a nuisance I'll have the coyonnes to tell you so.
LTR talk let me know you have your eyes on a certain goal. if you hide that and thats what you want your being insincere with both of us. So bring it on and if you want kids let me know . if I turn and run am I the kind of man you want anyway?
Whoever wrote this is insecure, emotionally selfish and needs to be the center of attention. He should learn to date REAL women and people instead of looking for an attentive girly girl with no spine. LOSER with the big L.
