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4 Reasons To Give The Geeky Guy A Shot

If you haven't already, you must. Take our word on this one.

Geeky men are the best kept secret in the dating world.  We've hoarded this info for years, but since spring is here and the weather is finally lightening and we're feeling generous, we'll share. Listen up as we pass along this kernel of wisdom to you, dear readers.

We are well aware some of you have probably avoided the affections of nerdy men as if each were infected with asymptomatic leprosy. Instead, you likely make a beeline for the David Beckham doppelgänger who hasn't looked in your direction once.

You (may) also then accept consistent slipshod behavior from this too-good-to-be-true heaven sent Alpha Male because he's just so perfect.

Listen ladies, your fantasy of dating the captain of the football team is a musty, outdated delusion leftover from high school. The hidden band camp geek in all of us wants to sit with the cool kids and go to prom with whomever was voted Best Looking.

But there's no room for any of this in the real world. The real world is far, far too cruel to subconsciously seek out all the situations that made you miserable as a 16 year old. Time to grow up and realize the soft-spoken, slightly disheveled, not overly hip guy seated in the corner over there, would actually make a much, much better boyfriend.

Now, as a disclaimer, rotten apples come in all shapes and sizes. We are by no means saying ALL geeky men are automatically better boyfriends. Just in our experience.

1.) HE WON'T TAKE YOU FOR GRANTED

Guys who weren't banging girls in high school, and working all the dorms in college, probably still have some of that "aww shucks" flattery when a chick like you actually gives them a chance. It doesn't matter if they've shed their Urkel suit for something a little more socially acceptable—one's formative adolescence has a way of worming its way into adult subconscious; you will still likely be a girl he assumed he'd never actually get. Now don't use this as a form of manipulation, but rather soak in all the returned calls, speedy texts and enthusiastic e-mails you've always wanted but never gotten.

2.) A MASSIVE EGO IS LESS LIKELY OF A PROBLEM

While everyone has an ego, a geeky guy probably won't have the kind of obnoxious get in a fight, stare at the waitress's ass bravado you find with all those douche bags on The Hills, for example. They haven't placed their self-worth on gaining social accolades and working the fickle popularity later, so therefore they don't expect it and won't act out in public if they don't get it. He's used to peacefully existing in the background, and might actually even prefer it—especially with you sitting next to him.

3.) NO WORRIES ABOUT REVEALING YOUR GEEKY SIDE

Can you relate?

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Lyz Married Community Manager
Posted April 24, 2009

Well I found my nerd boy at work. We both worked at Sears in high school.

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Posted April 23, 2009

This is so totally charming, and so totally true. Hang out in the math department instead of the law school, look at what a guy's reading in the coffee shop - go for the non-clotheshorse. Go for the GOOD boyfriend instead of the trophy one. Good for the heart, good for the soul, Thanks, Sarah (www.LoveRomanceRelationship.com)

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