It can start with a simple question like: "What are you wearing?" Other times it starts with a focus on breathing or a loving, but stern, command. And sometimes it starts with a simple "hello" and an ordinary conversation. No matter how it begins, once it's underway you'd better hope you have unlimited minutes. If you're having phone sex, there's no telling how long the call will last or how hot and bothered you'll get.

If you're feeling even the least bit weird about spicing up your airwaves, know that a recent survey by Cosmopolitan magazine said that 85 percent of guys would like their girl to give it to them good—over the phone. But your partner's participation isn't the key to enjoying phone sex—you are. Alan, a phone sex enthusiast, says that after phone sex his girlfriend showered him with compliments. "She told me that she was amazed at my ability to satisfy her—when, in fact, she was satisfying herself. All I was doing was enhancing the experience."

Phone sex is popular for a myriad of reasons. Number one, it's safe. You literally talk your way to a place where you want to touch yourself. No protection needed. Phone fornication can also be intensely intimate and it can bring you and your partner together even when you're on separate coasts or in different countries. Suzy, 34, had her first orgasmic telephone experience this past summer with a man thousands of miles away.

"What I loved about it," Suzy explained, "was that it was all about your fantasy and the images in your head, so it could be anything you wanted it to be. It can be really intense. You have to trust the person on the other end of the line, because it's all talking and you feel more vulnerable in a way."

Good phone sex requires trust as much as it requires a good signal. Have faith that the person on the other end of the line won't laugh at you. Once you establish trust you can enjoy sex with your most powerful sex organ—the brain. And once you're using your noodle, phone sex can be some of the most connected lovin' you have.

"It may seem 'disconnected' when you first pick up the phone, but the intensity of talking into someone's ear and listening to their confidences will soon have you completely oblivious to your surroundings," says Susie Bright sexpert and author of X: The Erotic Treasury. "Pretty soon you'll be one of those people who say, with utter seriousness, that 'phone sex is some of the best sex I've ever had.'"

Even if what you talk about stays in the realm of fantasy forever, connecting aurally allows you a freedom you may not get at other times in your relationship.