I'm The Inside Spoon And I'm A Dude
When it comes to spooning, sometimes you just want to be on the inside.
Over the years, I've admitted to a lot of embarrassing things. I told you, dear reader, that I work for a ladies magazine, I have been known to have my back waxed and that I use Facebook responsibly (using anything responsibly is a buzz-kill for a crazy mo-fo like me). But the most embarrassing thing I could think to write about today is that I enjoy being on the inside of a spoon and I'm a dude.
I'd imagine that you'd like to take a second to collect your thoughts as your mind has been straight-up blown, feel free, I've all day. Got yourself together? Great. I hope you're sitting down for this next part: I'm into ladies. Sorry, I should have given you more time. You good now? And finally, I'm into normal-sized, non-masculine women. No gargantuan, bearded ladies are up in this piece. In summary, I prefer the inside position on a spoon, I'm heterosexual, not into dominating (or domineering) ladies and I'm a dude. Jesus, it feels like I just dropped a load of bricks off my shoulders. And it's not like I mind being the outside spoon from time to time, I'm not a monster.
I've gone through most of my adult life under the impression that there was something slightly wrong with me. Who's ever heard of a dude that likes getting held? (Note: the hugging has to end before I have any chance of falling asleep, seriously.) But this weekend, I heard about another man who doesn't mind be the inner huggee. If it's even possible, this guy is even more macho than me and even more into normal ladies. If there are two of us out there, there have to be more. More dudes who are the inside spoon.
And that begs the question, what's wrong with a strapping, straight dude not minding being hugged from behind while lying in bed? (In all fairness, it's a different question than, "What's wrong with a man crying?" A man's allowed to cry when something bad happens to one of his kids, his wife leaves him (penniless), his parents die or he's drunk. There are probably a few other permutations of when it's OK for a man to cry, I've just never heard them.)
The inside spoon (like riding on the back of a motorcycle or ‘bitch' as the cycling community affectionately calls it) is a position of submission and tactical inferiority (how was that, Dwight Schrute?). And I personally think that it's a sign of equality, allowing a lady to have the back spoon. Who am I kidding? It's just not natural for a dude (one into ladies, that is) to ride the inner spoon, is it? Maybe one day our children or our children's children will live in a world where it's OK (or at least tolerated) for a proud, macho dude to ride inner spoon.
Any closet inside spoons out there? Tell us your stories.
Discussion
My boyfriend loves being inside spoon, at first I found it a little annoying, but now? I prefer it. I used to sleep with Teddy Bears when I was little and a body pillow when I was older. Actually, come to think of it... A lot of women like cuddling body pillows... Hm... Maybe women secretly like being the outside spoon?
i love all of these... me and my bf take turns too.. its nothing wrong with it
I personally like spooning my boyfriend, and he likes it when I throw my leg over him when we sleep.So f**k it keep spooning alive.
i spoon with my hubby all the time and im always on the outside he has never complained about it i dont think we have ever thought about it.. i dont like being on the inside .. feels like someone is smothering me. I guess its a to each there owe kinda thing right?
...my boyfriend loves to be the "inside spoon". At first i thought it was a bit weird; but i understand now. They like the same feelings that we like the security and the comfort, its normal...secretly i think theres a lot of inside spoon men out there..
I've definitely been made fun of for wanting to try the inside. Maybe I'll forward her this artcle.
well I dont see anything wrong with what you like. I sometimes hold my husband and Im not masculine. I think society has put in our men's minds that they dont deserve to receive any affection and that everything that they do they have to play superman. there is nothing in the bible that states there is something wrong with being intouch with himself or having a little sensitivity. I actually like the thought of knowing I can give my husband the same feeling of wholeness that he gives me so tomfoolery. you are perfectly normal.
Always go with your first impression . . .
Also, manlaw dictates a man can be sad/melancholy in public and cry in private.
okay, not be the mean one here, but as a lady I hate the outside of the spoon. I don't fit and my arms fall asleep because they are reclining up, as opposed to down. No, I prefer the inside. And if the DH liked the inside...well, let's not think about that.
IT DOES NOT MATTER IF HE IS THE OUTER SPOON .OR INNER SPOON AS LONG AS WE ARE TOGETHER. IS'NT THAT ALL THAT MATTERS?
I have done this for a few guys. I dont mind being the outer spoon if my guy needs support. Sometimes its the best thing you can do to wrap your arms around someone and tell them that no matter what everything is going to be OK.
i love being the outside spoon cause then i can roll over if i want to.. when ur the innie sometimes you get stuck, especially when you weigh in at 113lbs and he's 6foot 3inches 260lbs..... not much wiggle room when he snuggles into oblivion, leaving you gasping for air under a massive hairy arm.
Hey know theres nothing wrong with a man being the inside, my man has never complained about it, and its a comfort thing.
