Give Yourself A Hand!
Women masturbate more than once thought.
In the shower! In a hot tub! With a vibrator! During a sex dream!
Masturbation: ladies are doing it! Jezebel blogged about a UK study of 1,000 women ages 18 to 30 which found a whopping 92% masturbate!
Two-thirds of women in the Gossard Big M survey touched themselves three times a week and women living in London self-pleasured four times a week.
According to past surveys, 74% masturbated in 1974 and 62% did in 1953. (1953? Who'd have thunk?)
Of course, the study took place across the pond, so we can't be totally sure women here are just as frisky. We'd guess that with the shame surrounding the female body and female pleasure, less American women masturbate. So if you're one of those girls who's not into touching herself, or doesn't know where to start, let us help:
1) Babes In Toyland. First things first: if you don't own a vibrator, it's time to get one. They're relatively inexpensive, easy to clean, small and easy to hide from roommates/curious toddlers/nosy parents. Babes in Toyland is a very female-positive sex shop and they'll ship you a sex toy in the mail.
2) Solitude. Turn off your phone. Draw the blinds on your bedroom window. If you don't live alone, get a lock on your bedroom door. You need to be able to relax without fear of interruption.
3) Sex For One: The Joy of Self-loving, by Betty Dodson. A classic. Betty Dodson looks like your grandma, but she's got the best masturbation advice around!
4) Get comfortable. You're likely going to have to move around a lot to find the right position, so put all your softest pillows and blankets in bed.
5) Google. Okay, we know, it's cheesy, but really the Internet's the best sex toy around. Whatever mental image would float your boat, whether it's Ed Westwick or spanking or a schoolgirl fantasy, or getting spanked by Ed Westwick during a schoolgirl fantasy, a little Googling can help!
Discussion
My husband likes it too much and would almost rather I pleasured my self instead of him doing it. I am not comfortable with mastubation and I start off ok and then fizzle off, I can do better when he is there to cheer me on yet he does so well in that department I don't understand why I would want to do myself when he is right there. the concept is alien to me.
Hey real men (and lovers of any gender) are great. But sometimes life intrudes and your too tired for sex and need a quick fix. Plus, masturbation is an important part to learning what gets you off and how to tell your lover how to please you sexually. Masturbation is healthy:
"Research shows that masturbation has numerous health benefits and improves prostate health in men, reduces pre-menstrual cramping in women, provides a healthy release for sexual tension, and is the ultimate in safe sex. Psychotherapists agree “that a lack of masturbatory experience may be related to psychopathology, rather than the practice of autoeroticism.” In fact, Masters and Johnson—a team of physicians responsible for pioneering the field of human sexuality—have established that masturbation does not cause any “negative short-term or long-term medical health effects” what-so-ever...."
So what are the other 8% doing?
I think women who use adult toys feel liberated from the independence. Now, I'm not suggesting that they can replace men, but they're a great alternative to the fuss, sometimes.
Hopefully you ladies don't mind a guy's input here, but I prefer being with a woman who knows how to please herself. I can figure out only so much on my own, and if she doesn't know her own road map then it gets a little trickier getting to the destination. A woman that knows how to reach orgasm on her own is a woman that can coach her man in helping her reach it as well. Plus, its damn erotic in a "sadistic-suffering" kinda way to watch and be made to wait until she is ready for me to touch!
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH GETTING ACQUAINTED WITH ONES SELF EITHER BY HAND OR BY TOY ENJOY! ENJOY!
oh toys are great. just have to be introduced slowly.... and i make no bones about it... its ok if you get yours first and well..sometimes that happens... i got a box of toys beside the bed (sephora boxes are great!) and if he's tired....NO PROBLEM! and sometimes it just the shocking honestly of "hey didnt get mine but im going to" is a real rush for them! i know 9 times outta 10 if the situation comes about that i want more, me fooling around with myself definately brings him back around for round 2!
Maybe just a lame suggestion- but instead of buying a new vibrator connsider finding a new man- one that is not jealous of a toy and can please you. Nothings better than the Real Meal Deal? Am I right?
Hope you dont mind my comment- I am always here to lend a hand for a damsel in distress. LOL
You should have told your boyfriend about your vibrator. He might have had fun getting you off using it. I know my boyfriend has a blast with mine. Plus his fingers won't get tired trying to stimulate your clit!!!
