Does The "Other Woman" Owe You an Apology?
On 20/20, Gov. Spitzer's call girl apologizes to the scorned wife.
Junior year of high school, my first serious boyfriend cheated on me -- with a soccer referee who was also named "Jessica," if I remember correctly.
I should have seen it coming -- he was a soccer playing jock, a "bad boy," and so handsome that even my father said he looked like a "Greek god. But I was in loooooooove and so I did what any other 17-year-old girl would have done in this situation:
I found out that girls's AIM screenname and confronted her over the Internets.
But things didn't exactly go as planned.
I thought she'd type "I'm sorry." I thought she'd realize I was in love with this guy, I'd lost my virginity to him, and they'd just completely crushed me.
Instead she typed, and I quote:
"I've seen a picture of you. No wonder he cheated on you with me."
Bitch!
I should known better than to have be hurt by that. I know she was just being mean and cruel and bullying me. But I spent all of middle school as an Ugly Duckling -- insulting my attractiveness cut me deeply. And she didn't even apologize.
I've been in the infidelity situation from all angles: the cheated upon, the cheater, the cheatee. My experience at the tender age of 17 as the cheated upon has clearly informed my ethics in this matter: Responsiblity counts. As the cheater, I've apologized, and though as the cheatee, I haven't yet, I would in a heartbeat if I was ever confronted.
Maybe it's naive of me to compare two horny high school students with former NY Gov. Eliot Spitzer, a married public figure and father of three children. Two different ballgames,I know. But I think what any "woman scorned" wants is remorse -- from Silda Spitzer and Jennifer Aniston on down to me.
Does that mean all "other women," including call girls and strippers, should apologize to the wives and girlfriends of the men who see them? No, that would be impossible. But high class call girl Ashley Dupre became world famous due to Client Number Nine and surely not a day goes by where Silda Spitzer does not think about her. The ex-governor has said "I'm sorry" to his wife countless times; now Ashley Dupre really has no other choice but to take a little bit of responsibility for screwing up Silda's life, too.
Discussion
Naw, she isn't going to apologize, these hoe's who mess with another womens man are truly pathetic and desparate. Don't give either of them another thought and don't let them see your pain. Let them have each other, their relationship was based on a lie and will end just as heated.
My boyfriend cheated on me as well. He begged me to work it out and I said yes. The other women kept calling him telling him I was calling her phone taunting her. (I was NOT) I permently broke it off with him. Less then a month after I left he moved her in. She still tries to say I am taunting her and driving by her house etc...Again I am NOT. In fact what is so funny is that I moved an hour and a half away and they don't know that. I never told him where I was going and don't speak to him.
This is how I have been getting through it all, I repeat my little quote I put together.
"I'm not one to wish anything bad on anyone, but I don't wish you well either! Some people are made for each other and some deserve each other, you deserve each other!!!!! Karma will be the bigger bitch then I could eva be. I'm gonna be ok!!!! Naw.....I am going to be wonderful, great and move on to bigger and better things. The last six years was God slapping me in the back of the head saying wake up!!!!!!"
I was cheated on by my husband. The other woman didn't then and doesn't now owe me a thing, including an apology. My husband, on the other hand, owed me everything.
Keep in mind that the other woman isn't getting the complete story -- about you or about your marriage -- from your husband. She's getting a filtered version of his story, in which you are not painted in a particularly flattering light. And even if he doesn't say anything bad about you, believe me it's implied by omission. So what does the other woman care? She feels sorry for this great guy who she has been led to believe has a not-so-great wife.
I'll say it again: she owes you nothing; he owed you everything. Let him go.
This article is a crock unfortunately. Why should the "other woman" apologize? She isn't sorry for anything. You should only apologize when you're truly sorry for doing something...and in these situations, the "other woman" is never sorry. Only in rare, rare occasions does the "other woman" not know that the man is married and in all of these situations...She doesn't care. I'm involved with a married man at the moment, I know his wife, speak to her, and have no regrets. He's the man of my dreams and for almost two years he was all I thought about, and wished that I had in my boyfriend. I'd dreamt of him and never thought that he would ever be interested in me...and low and behold he was. It was an opportunity that I couldn't refuse. I broke of my engagement and I have the time of my life with him. I'm not in love, because I won't go there with him and he knows that. However, being with someone and being passionate about that person is worth it...if they're married or not. So, all of the women who are obsessed with this crap should focus on keeping their man occupied because rest assured there is someone like me out there who's ready, willing, and able to make him feel like a man again.
-The "other woman"
There are women who are truly sorry for being the OW as I am one of them. I recently ended a relationship with a married man. He is someone that I have known for more than 1/2 my life but for whatever reason we never got together. Anyway our paths crossed this past spring and things happened. It did not take me long to realize that I was not l cut out for the role of the other woman. I was in the process of ending the relationship but during that time his wife found out. Needless to say things are not good. I know that he would have still been unfaithful to her because things are not good at home but that does not make me feel any better. If given the chance I will apologize to his wife because I am truly sorry for my actions.
My husband left me for a coworker recently and if there was anything I thought would warrant an apology, it would be the fact that she pretended to be a friend while she was seeing my husband behind my back (for 6 months).
Cheating Husband
Esther: Slavery is illegal!! You or anyone else, does not "own" anyone. We are all free agents, No apology is necessary. There is no such thing as woman/man wronged. If the So chooses other sexual /activity partners, that is between those two people.
What if you know the bitch who has been sleeping with your man Cant she apologies to the owner of the man. I feel she can atleas say SORRY rather than keeping quiet. It pains so much if you know the intruder unless were you dont know her. The best way is for a man not to CHEAT.
THE OTHER WOMAN HAS NEVER APOLOGIZED TO ME. WOULD IT MATTER IF SHE DID?
Would it matter if she did? would it change anything? NO, It takes two I think the man should say I'm sorry for playing both of you. I'm sure she trusted him like you did. And I'm sure she thinks about it all the time and feels bad. She might want to say I'm sorry, But again it will not change anything.Lots of Luck to you!
The problem is that most of the other women see the current woman as the "bad guy". In their eyes, you are the one intruding. As far as confronting them, you are only giving them your power. They have taken too much already,
so this means i've gotta apologize to that dude who payed me $4000 to give him an outside-the-pants hj? Crap... maybe i'll do it on craig's list.
