Well Terry it really depends on the ages of the children involved. I'm going through a divorce & have always had a very open, honest relationship with my children who range in ages from 10-17. I was very worried that I would destroy the bond that we share by telling them but then I was wrong if I wasn't honest either. I made some 1 on 1 time with each of my kids individually & just told them that there were going to be some changes in our lives but not by any means because of anything they had done. Because all children automatically think they have done something wrong. I explained to them that daddy & I have alot of conflict with each other & have grown apart over the last couple of years but that we have a great friendship & in order to continue salvaging that we would be better off & happier as just friends. There were tears but all of my children appreciated the fact that I respected them so much that I could be open & honest with them about it. Just always be honest regardless of the circumstances! Best Of Luck.

I think the hardest thing about divorce with children was when they asked questions about why daddy was mad and why he sometimes didn't show up to see them. That is hard to explain in an honest way that still respects their father.

I think being completely transparent with them helps. My brother went through this with his kids, and they said things like "mom and dad are really sad right now" or "mom feels angry with dad." If they know what's up they don't have to come up with alternate explanations.

You don't, you just say what is true --Its not their fault and you still love them. But in the end only they can explain it to themselves. You just have to give them a lot of love and space.