I kissed a girl and I liked it. So go the lyrics of Katy Perry's top-of-the-charts song playing endlessly on the radio. Apparently, she's not the only one. Some married women like it, too—a lot. It's what piqued their interest in "the lifestyle" and locked them in for life.
Part one of my swingers article, "The Surburban Swingers Club," took you behind the scenes of a DC-area swingers club. But the same next questions seemed to evolve for everyone: How in the world do married women get here? You might imagine it's men who are begging their wives to swing, but in many cases, it's the wives who want to try it.
More from YourTango: Nagging Can Ruin Your Kid's Future Relationship: I'm Living Proof
I spoke with six happily married female swingers (many are moms) and several husbands (some names have been changed), who spoke honestly about their motivations, meet-ups, and ah-ha moments. Here, a peek into what interested them in the lifestyle, and what keeps them going back for more...
More from YourTango: I'm Falling In Love With Someone Off-Limits—Now What?
On a typical Saturday night at the Tabu Social Club in Catonsville, Maryland, Carolyn and Dave hit the dance floor. They're a thirtysomething, married couple from a comfortable Washington, DC suburb. They work in downtown DC, drive their kids in carpools, and may be one table over from you at Outback Steakhouse, talking about mortgage payments and Labor Day barbecue plans. And they are swingers. They have had sex with other couples in their home and at swinger house parties; on boats and in clubs; in threesomes, foursomes, group sex rooms, and much more. Inside An NYC Sex Club
Tonight, they are at Tabu to hook up, hang out with friends, meet new ones, and get to know others that sparked their interest in popular online swinging sites such as the Club Voodoo community. Across the room, they spot a couple they know and have thought about "playing" with. The women gravitate to one another and are suddenly dancing, then dirty dancing, then Carolyn's tongue is inside the woman's mouth. Carolyn often enjoys passionately kissing a fun, sexy woman—she believes a woman just knows how to please another woman and create an erotic environment.