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| Suspicious Signs That He Might Be Cheating |
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I would ignore majority of the "common" signs that a man is supposedly cheating. The man that I am seeing doesn't do any of them... He gets up with his normal routine, never misses a beat, sneaks to my house when his wife is at work, and then goes home and picks up right where he left off. No staying late at work, no avoiding her, no not having sex with her... None of that. |
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I caught my husband cheating in the worst way... his phone was left @home he thaught it was off but it kept beeping and it was text messages from another woman. (suppossed old friend) when I confronted him he denied it of course so did she. but I made it clear what I believed. they were so obvious it was right in front of me and until I caught the messages that day I didnt ever see it. They say love is blind. I still stayed with him for 7 mos and they continued till he left me after 21 yrs of marriage because he wanted a chance to be happy with her..yes that is what he said to me... |
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SOME MEN ARE SO GO AT HIDING IT I ALSO FIND OUT THROUGH THE MAIL THAT HE WAS CHEATING.OF COURSE HE LEFT ME FOR HER. MAYBE I SHOULD TRY PINK. I THINK SHE LIKES NATALIE PORTMAN.HELL IM STILL SINGLE. |
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HOW ABOUT WHEN HE SAYS HONEY IM GOING TO THE STORE I WILL BE RIGHT BACK AND HE IS GONE FOE THREE DAYS. WHEN HE DOES COME HOME HE HAS NO EXPLANATION. AND YOU WANNA KNOW WHY IM SINGLE. |
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when he keeps his phone on silent or keeps it off when he's with you so he can avoid answering it when the other girl calls or texts. the no sex thing i totally agree is a huge red flag. the other thing is when he doesn't give you a direct answer to where he's been or who he went out with that night. i always loved the answer "just some friends". such a tool. |
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Yeah, or the sex excuses. Seriously, if his libido is taking a hit, it may be because he has a secret love stash. |
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How about when he goes out "with his friends" dressed up in a nice suit...or goes to buy milk for 6 hours. |
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I agree. I think you know, whether you want to admit it to yourself or not. You know. The trick is catching him without looking like the bad guy. |
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I say history determines if he is a cheater. Men never change. Not for you, not for anybody. |
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This true and stupid me beleived that I could be the one to make him change. If i loved him enough and was good enough to him he would never cheat. What a fool i was. What is worse is he makes me feel like I am the stupid one that i am the psycho one and for awhile i believed it too. But we as women should always follow our intuition. It is always true. |
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Why don't you "surprise him" one night at the office? Bring along a bottle of wine and wear something sexy, just in case he's there. Tell him you missed him and you wanted to have a late night rendevous. If he's not there, then you can go nuts with the third degree. |
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if you're close enough to someone you should really be able to tell. you should be able to sense that something is different about him! if my fiance were cheating i think i'd know. and i'd confront him. you'll never know for sure unless you confront him, ladies. |
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i have to say, as someone with personal experience, you might *not* know. my father cheated on my mother throughout their marriage and my mother didn't know a thing. he was very good at hiding it, and pretending he still loved her. and when she finally did find out, he denied it, and what was she supposed to say? i'm sorry, but it's not that easy. especially if you love a person and trust them. so what i'm saying is, there might be no signs at all. |
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There are other reasons why he might want to have sex. Avoiding intimacy though is a good sign. Or a bad sign, really. |
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All you need to do is smell his you know what. Trust me. |
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He doesn't want sex... obvious enough. |
Is he at his office until late every night working on some important project? If so, take a whiff of his collar when he comes home to see if you pick up any sweet scents that don't come from your perfume bottles. Also, if he's never in the mood to have sex with you, then there might be a problem--he's getting it from someone/somewhere else. What are some other suspicious signs that lead you to believe he could be cheating?