The Female "Happy Ending" Massage
Satisfaction guaranteed? One writer finds out, firsthand.
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Chances are you've heard the story: an unmarked door leads to a dimly-lit massage parlor where women with strong hands and tolerant smiles await a train of libidinous male patrons. The "happy ending" tale is all too common, a mixture of truth and urban legend that captivates male imaginations even in an age of casual sex and unlimited Internet porn. Read: Does Casual Sex Screw Up Emotional Intimacy?
"It's always a certain type of place," said Brian, a 41-year-old screenwriter who admits to visiting the odd "men's spa" or two (though never, of course, for that). "You go for a reason, and you know what you're getting when you walk in the door."
The rest of spa culture, meanwhile, is dominated by women. There are more than 14,000 spas in the U.S. bringing in around $10 billion in annual revenue, and their predominantly female clientele average more than 100 million visits per year. With all that time spent around low lighting, soft music, and heavy rubbing, it can be tough not to think of sex. But until recently, the female version of "happy endings" has remained doggedly taboo.
Luckily, any "rules" restricting female sexuality are dying as fast as Sex and the City repeats can slay them, and it was only a matter of time before women embraced the notion that "quick releases" aren't just for men. And with competition among spas getting ever more intense, customers are starting to demand more than just Enya and free herbal tea with their Shiatsu, according to massage therapists. "It's such a well-known thing for guys, and women are finally getting more comfortable asking for it," said Anna, a self-described "massage healer" who has worked at several upscale spas and performed happy endings on female customers. (Names have been changed to protect the less-than-innocent.) "Women are finally getting comfortable with the idea that it's ok to feel erotic in what's already a really erotic setting."
The bottom line: We like massages and we like orgasms, so why shouldn't the two sometimes, er, come hand in hand? Read: The Hands-Free Orgasm
Discussion
I don't think there is anything wrong with a little bit of a sexual "adventure" ! Sometimes when you're single and don't want to go through the whole trouble of finding a guy dating and making it to that 2nd 3rd or 4th base, it's just easier to pay for a massage....and maybe even get a little more than you expected, and why not? One time thing, he's hott, you get pleasure and leave....some people may like to explore.
I'm not impressed with this article at all and some of the information is misleading and false. I am a licensed massage therapist in Las Vegas, NV. The article states prostitution is legal in Nevada. It is not legal statewide. It is only legal in some counties and Clark County where Las Vegas is located is not one of them. In other words prostitution is NOT LEGAL in Las Vegas and several other areas in the state.
A happy ending is prostitution. Nick name it what you will, sensual, erotic, happy ending, prostitution massage, frontal release etc. Happy endings are still prostituion and don't belong in the mix with massage. Many massage therapists, myself included, practice therapeutically throughout the country. Promoting happy ending prostitution as part of a regular massage regime is misleading and a slam to the profession.
It seems to me the author is promoting happy endings in a professional setting because those are the places cited in the article. Either that or she's just attempting to get a rise out of people. Most of the article is how to go about getting that happy ending in a professional setting. What people do with their own time and money is up to them. However, happy endings = prostitution.
And by the way, I work with a very reputable out call company servicing the Casino's through the consierges and VIP. Massage is safer that way. If the casinos new prostitution massage was being scheduled through their spa or an outcall servcie, we would ousted in two seconds and their employees would be fired.
Im female, young,healthy,single, and comfortable with my sexuality. But this is horrendous. There are places in vegas specifically for this behavior! I'm NOT saying its wrong by any means to finish yourself off if you have a stimulating massage, but i go to get a massage to relax. If i wanted sexual relaxation, i would do it myself. If i needed sexual contact with a man, I'll go out with one. I do NOT feel the need to pay for sex, and never will.
I'm not an LMT, but i can see how the community as a whole would be horrified by this. its just wrong to expect them to get you off. These are licensed professionals, who went to a lot of trouble only for you,skuch, to make he/she feel like a whore. Not cool. Maybe they aren't comfortable with this and feel that they dont want bad rumors being started by rejectees, or fear you complaining to their boss about their work.
The point is this is wrong in every way outside of a licensed Vegas whorehouse. Feel better about yourself for making some poor LMT a whore, go ahead.
Las Vegas is located in Clack County, Nevada where prostitution is ILLEGAL. It is not condoned or tolerated within professional or non-professional settings. We do not have whorehouses any more than any other metropolitan area in the United States and the law shuts them down as they become aware of them.
I don't know that I could personally request it....and i've had many massages before, normal ones...But more power to you women if you do!
I'm a nationally certified massage therapist and it's crap like this that infuriates me and sets my profession back a 100 years. Are you serious???? The point of massage is to experience therapeutic non sexual healthy touch. If you want a happy ending get a boyfriend. I really can't believe this was actually published in any forum. I'm insulted and disgusted. Beyond that I just don't know what to say except Thanks for perpetuating the idea that my profession consists of a bunch of glorified rub and tugs. You royally suck.
The best massage I ever had was last year. A male private masseur in Santa Barbara. He came to my motel room and gave me a ninety minute massage. He was no model and never touched my cunny but his massage was so amazing! I still get tingles below thinking about it. Yes I had an orgasm during the massage. After he left my room {with a generous tip) I had another by myself. Next time I am in Santa Barbara I will ask him for something more! Wish me luck ladies :)
I am going to school to be a licensed massage therapist and can tell you that there is NO WAY any of us would chance on losing our licenses by doing something like this. School costs almost $10,000 including equipment and books and classes. There is NO freaking way a legit LMT would consider this. I have heard the stories. There will usually be one misguided soul a week thinking that an LMT is the same thing as the proverbial back room sex parlor operator. If you are at a legitimate establishment, and there is a certificate on the wall, don't bother asking for anything other than to have your rhomboids or deltoids worked on...A full body relaxation massage is just that. Nothing more. It's completely beneficial to our health and mental well being to get regular massages and is NOT going to end in any other way than the client being more relaxed going out, than when he/she came in.
onewriter, I can tell you it happens and your relunctance to accept that this as part of reality is scary. Recently there was a national news report about high end happy endings. SEX is human and FUN! Prohibition is a proven to fail system. If you do not provide it great. But there are other licensed bodyworkers who do. The kitty is out of the bag.
Wow Skuch...you have it completely twisted....Yes sex is natural, fun and by all means necessary. But to say that these prostitutes should be allowed to call themselves Massage therapists is INSANE! I think I speak for every upstanding LMT(NCBTMB) that we did not go to school to receive our Associates degrees in bodywork to be roped into the same category as these opportunistic jerks. The point of massage therapy is not to get off...that defeats the entire purpose. (read previous post)
To quote you ,you said" If you do not provide it great. But there are other licensed bodyworkers who do." The key word is licensed and herein lies the problem. When we finish school and take the respective tests to become licensed ,there are laws that we are bound to adhere to. The number one law being that we do not use our clients or allow our clients to use us for sex. Mutually agreed or not it is against our laws and ethics codes to use our jobs in such a manner. Would this be an acceptable practice between doctor and patient? Probably not. Do you think that doctors should give in to the whim of every patient that has a desire for narcotics because that's what they want? NO. Whether or not you believe this to be a damaging practice or not is irrelevant...Bottom line is it is against our laws. It only serves to keep those of us who wish to be free of the stigma that what we do is sexual in nature bound to those false ideas. We are the ones who continue to be propositioned...Do you know how degrading that is? Would you like someone to come in to your job everyday and insinuate that they expect some sort of sex act from you? Think about that and get back to me.
Skuch, if it happens, and I'm sure it does, it is NOT by a legitimate LMT because they would lose their license. Massage therapy is proven as healthful and beneficial to combat many ailments and perpetuating the stigma equating it with a sex parlor is not only NOT helpful, it is downright disgusting. Massage therapy is NOT SEX. Get informed or stay off the record. There are plenty of people on here who are here to be informed. Don't perpetuate misinformation. Lyz, LMTs are asked all the time. We are told and the client is told that we can end the session at any time, if we or they are uncomfortable for any reason. We have draping to help disguise anything that might be "popping up" and we know it will happen. It is indeed intimate touch. But it isn't sexual. Too many people don't get enough of the right kind of touch and the body responds. Jostling, the rocking of the body, is especially good to stay away from on a young male lying prone. If one of us took a chance just to give some schmuck a thrill, we would literally be putting our career on the chopping block and playing russian roulette. If however, the LMT wanted to meet with them later OUTSIDE the realm of business, there is nothing saying no. But I can tell you, the risk AND stigmata of giving a "happy ending" is not worth it to most LEGIT LMTs.
I think that if a woman is comfortable asking for it and a masseuse or masseur is comfortable providing the experience then it should be no problem. However, they are right about the prostitution laws. You certaintly don't want your masseuse to end up on the wrong side of the law and not even realise it!
I personally probably wouldn't be down with getting busy with my masseuse. That is only because I like to reserve my orgasms for my partner. If I'm by myself I even get bored. I find it much more stimulating to be with my partner and orgasm rather then alone or (in this case) with a stranger. For me, looking into his eyes while I climax is the best reward. I like to watch him watch me enjoying myself. With a masseuse I am paying for him to relax me, not get me all hot, bothered and worked up. LOL.
I am sure there are ladies who differ, and that's their perogative. I would just watch out for The Man (aka the cops).
As to relevance of the article, relationships aren't confined to emotional exchanges between two or more people. Sometimes the most important (and quite often most neglected) relationship is to one's self. Now, being a guy, sure I've thought about going to a massage parlor and getting the "happy ending", but its more in the fantasy realm then the "I gotta check this off my list of things to do before I die" realm. If these ladies really enjoy being able to obtain these services and are not obsessing over them or substituting them for the real thing, then more power to them.
I think this goes more towards the sexual emancipation of women. I've been with very few partners that felt empowered enough to be direct in wanting sex or what they actually want done to them. Once again, these are things that lead into healthy relationships, being able to not only define your wants and needs but to express them as well without qualms or reservations.
I have had a happy ending massage and it was fantastic and included multiples if you know what I mean. It occurred the 2nd time we met. I told him the first massage left me so aroused and he took it form there. So ladies don't be shy, remove the sheet and say yes when he asks if you are ok with buttocks and inner thighs being massaged. Who knows maybe that is code for happy endings. I had no idea about this, but now that i know you can bet every massage will include a happy ending or at least seeing about the possibility of one.