Dedicated to fetish, fantasy, and unbridled want, it would seem that orgies are environments open to boundless possibility. Indeed, when I dragged my husband to our very first sexy soiree, I prepared for our night out with the determination to be ready for anything.
I stuffed a large purse with my favorite vibrator, a pair of handcuffs, an assortment of condoms, extra batteries, lube, and massage oil. I considered including my purple tickler and a wide-tipped riding crop, but balked at bringing such items onto my regular NJ Transit bus. I was well-stocked, though. God forbid I be unprepared for any possible instance of sexual pleasure.
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There are some things, however, you can never be fully prepared for. After an evening with the debauched and insatiably desirous, I learned a thing or two about what NOT to do.
Do NOT count on your hostess to provide you with the same vajayjay-friendly lube you ordered from Good Vibrations.
While it's not necessary to bring the entire contents of your naughty drawer, you should take along the basic accoutrements of safe and comfortable sex. A variety pack of glow-in-the-dark condoms should more than cover the "safe" aspect, while your favorite lube should cover the "comfortable." Some party venues provide guests with free condoms and tiny packets of lube at the door. Better to be safe than sorry, though, especially when a complimentary tube of kiwi strawberry Astroglide is barely sufficient to get you past second base. You may prefer to bring your own glycerin-free products anyway, particularly if your hoo-ha is extra-sensitive.