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Dear God, I'm Ready To Meet The One

Got faith? For religious (and spiritual) singles, it's a way to find love.

What's a nice single Jewish girl in search of a smart, funny man doing at a place affectionately called BJ?

Capitalizing on the latest, greatest trend in matchmaking—one even your mother can get excited about.

Congregation B'nai Jeshurun (yes, their url is bj.org) in New York City is renowned as a home for hip, young Jews, and, without even billing itself as a singles organization, the congregation's twenty- and thirtysomething networking group, Tze'irim, has recently been the source of a number of happy matches.

One of those is Lauren Rott, whose first date with her fiancé involved dancing with the Torah at a Tze'irim Simchat Torah celebration. Rott sees same-faith dating as a wonderful byproduct of being part of a spiritual community: "I think it's a great way to meet somebody, not necessarily with the stigma of an online dating service or singles party. People come to our events as a way of making friends, and within that, their chance of meeting someone is even greater."

It's plenty hard to find a partner to date and eventually marry. It can feel even harder when you want to meet someone who shares not only your love of sushi and old movies, but also your deepest-held religious and spiritual beliefs.

Many young, single people of faith are tired of soulless bars, meaningless speed dating events, and the manipulations of secular online dating. They know what they care about, and they feel they run the best chance of meeting their soul mates if they go to places where their souls are nourished. Read: 10 Surprising Places Couples Met

Carey O'Neill found just such a place in the Contemporary Roman Catholics (CRC) group at Holy Trinity Church on the Upper West Side of Manhattan. The CRC brings singles—there's one group for twentysomethings, another for those in their thirties and forties—together after Sunday afternoon mass to do everything from going to a local bar for a glass of wine to having a potluck dinner to heading to a Yankee game or having a fondue-tasting party at a local restaurant.

O'Neill, 31, says the group isn't made up of "religious freak zealots," but people who share a commitment to Catholicism while also living in the busy real world of New York single life. "At least I know I have something in common with someone through this group," she says. "They have a shared faith, but at the same time, they have a personal side—they like to do the things I like to do, like go out for a drink after work."

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