Before you can trust someone after an affair, you first need to take a look at yourself.
When my ex left me for another woman, it threw me into the depths of despair. The situation had me questioning myself over and over, and it stripped away my self-esteem, leaving me feeling crushed and angry. Learning to trust someone again after an affair can be really difficult ... but it's not impossible.
During a movie, the star starts up an affair. Differently, perhaps you can’t make contact with your partner. Or your partner seems preoccupied, leaving you to imagine he’s thinking about her. Suddenly you find yourself racked with hurt and anger. Your initial memories of what you felt discovering the betrayal flood you.
Dr. Romance helps a reader look into what went wrong with a past relationship.
Dear Dr Romance:
I hope you will be able to provide me with an insight. I was in a relationship with a man I genuinely loved and wanted future with. Our relationship was lovely to start with but after a few months problems started to emerge: another woman told me he was in a relationship with her and my trust was broken.
Learning to trust again can be hard. Read our advice here.
Anyone who has had their heart broken (perhaps, more than once??) knows that what is damaged even more than your pride, what is lost even more than your dreams for the future, what is even harder to get over than the ache of loss, is your ability to trust someone again. If you’re anything like me, learning to trust again is scarier and more difficult than climbing Mt. Kilimanjaro (not that I’ve ever tried that, mind you).
What kills trust in intimate relationships and steps you can take to restore trust!
How many times have you heard the words, "If you love me you will trust me" or "Why don't you just trust me?"
I don't know how those words feel in your gut but they always fill me with even more distrust than I was originally feeling.
Of course any admonitions that you "should" feel trust are designed to circumvent your internal warning system. Whether that is accomplished with assurances or threats or attempts to shame you doesn't really matter. The end result is the same.
Now you're an adult, and you certainly don't want to be made a fool of. Yet, as you start to get involved with someone, it's a real possibility that the person you're seeing is really not the person with whom you're meant to spend the rest of your life.
Learn three easy ways to protect your heart while dating.
I got a call from my girlfriend Lena the other day. She was down in the dumps over a guy she met on the Internet. She and Brad had been dating for a month. Things seemed to heat up quite quickly. They had been intimate sexually and were also planning a weekend trip together. Lena was absolutely smitten. They had so much in common and she found him easy to talk to and loved spending time with him
My Girlfriend Has Serious Trust Issues - What Do I Do?
I’m dating a woman who’s really great, except for the fact that she’s constantly questioning me whenever we spend any time apart.
To give you an example, when I go out with friends, she has to know where I’m going, when I’m going to be back, and exactly who else will be there.