Personal development coach Sherri Nickols joins YourTango experts Charles Orlando, Sheila Paxton and Barbara Schiffman as Melanie Gorman asks us what advice we would give to women looking for love.
As Carrie Bradshaw once cleverly related “When a relationship dies, do we ever really give up the ghost, or are we forever haunted by the spirit of relationships past?” Many of us have had a BIG relationship. Maybe not as BIG as the relationship we're in, but we've all had one of those relationships that hit us hard, chewed us up, and spit us out in the end. And though we managed to sweep ourselves off, pick up the peaces and move on, sometimes we feel haunted by the ghost of the relationships past.
Trapeze artists might be some of the bravest people in the world, but they're also among the most vulnerable. Tremendous trust—in themselves, other people, and the universe—is necessary to be able to climb up a 25-foot ladder, grab onto a thin bar, and jump. Relationships have always been my trapeze bars.
Dear Dr. Romance: I wanted to get your reaction to something; what would it mean to you if someone said to you "So maybe I quit on our relationship." Yes my wife said this to me right before I left on deployment and I have been having a hard time dealing with it.
Vulnerability is often seen as a weakness, but it's actually a strength. Dr. Brené Brown, a renowned expert on vulnerability, explains that it's really about "sinking into" the joyful moments in life — daring to show up and let ourselves be seen.
It’s just amazing at how good we are at the stories we tell ourselves. Making up stories happens so fast that we don’t even realize what champions we have become at story-telling! And then those stories dictate our thoughts, our perceptions and ultimately our lives. We have a story or opinion on everything, it seems.
Without a general agreement between the two of you about core values, what issues that you care deeply about and how you want to live your lives together as a couple, your chances of being happily married for a lifetime are not good. As love and marriage experts, we know that you simply cannot marry a man who doesn't share your values.
Have willful, non-spontaneous sex, stick around a bit longer than you think you should, and more ways to revive your long-term relationship.
Funny thing trust! You rarely think about it when you fall in love. It’s an unspoken part of the package. The message comes loud and clear…………. you are THE special person, the centre of their world. Your happiness and well being is of primary concern and you can bask safe and secure in that knowledge. Until the unthinkable happens; you find out she’s having an affair with a colleague or he’s gone on yet another binge dropping, as per usual, all the responsibility on you.
Are you sick and tired of being out with your guy and having to watch him watch other women the whole time? You've tried to ignore it. You've glared at him, pursed your lips and sighed dramatically. You've even tried talking to him about this disrespectful habit of his ... and he still does it!
When my ex left me for another woman, it threw me into the depths of despair. The situation had me questioning myself over and over, and it stripped away my self-esteem, leaving me feeling crushed and angry. Learning to trust someone again after an affair can be really difficult ... but it's not impossible.
During a movie, the star starts up an affair. Differently, perhaps you can’t make contact with your partner. Or your partner seems preoccupied, leaving you to imagine he’s thinking about her. Suddenly you find yourself racked with hurt and anger. Your initial memories of what you felt discovering the betrayal flood you.
Dear Dr Romance: I hope you will be able to provide me with an insight. I was in a relationship with a man I genuinely loved and wanted future with. Our relationship was lovely to start with but after a few months problems started to emerge: another woman told me he was in a relationship with her and my trust was broken.