Certain words I dread ("We need to schedule two more dental appointments") while others I would kill to hear ("Ann Coulter's physician confirms sex-change operation").

And then there are statements that defy imagination, such as; "My husband gave me the greatest birthday present last night—a public flogging." I actually overheard one of my exotic dance students say these exact words last week.

Now, I'm not exactly unfamiliar with the BDSM scene. My education began a few years ago, while browsing the aisles of my favorite sex shop. A man came up to me and asked, "Are you a Dom or … Read More

Love Bytes: Four must-click sex, dating, and relationship links.

How having a "man cave" can improve a relationship. [Asylum]

Can being single too long prevent you from ever getting a boyfriend? [College Candy]

I've been single for a really, really long time. Like, super long. Super duper long. I’ll put it to you plainly: the last time I had a BF, Jordin Sparks was still competing on American Idol.

Spanking may actually bring you closer to your significant other. [Em and Lo]

Why messing with someone's birth control is never wise. [College Humor]

Can everyone just accept that Boy George, like Vincent van Gogh, is too beautiful for our laws, cultural norms and conceptual understanding of the illusion of experiential reality and call it a day? No? We're going to do this the hard way, aren't we? Fine, cruel world, we'll play it however you care to, we're game.

The luminary being born by the human name George O'Dowd is in some hot water (enough to flash fry a buffalo in 30 seconds) about something that was surely just a misunderstanding. According to DListed, Boy George (in Spanish, Niño Jorge) … Read More

A former client of a Philadelphia dominatrix named Edythe Maa shot himself this morning after kidnapping Maa and killing her boyfriend, a New York attorney.

The obsessed client, David Krieg, waited for Maa, who went by the name Jade Vixen, in the parking lot of her residence last night. She'd returned home from dinner with her boyfriend, Anthony Ottaviano, a lawyer at one of New York's high-profile firms, when Krieg shot Ottaviano and kidnapped Maa. She convinced him to let her go hours later. Maa called police after Krieg dropped her off at his relatives' home in Pennsylvania. They tracked … Read More

Blogger Crush: The Ethical Slut

LoveStage: Engaged

Although we don't know her actual name because she chooses to remain anonymous, we do know all about her bad-girl behavior. The Ethical Slut is this weeks blogger crush. This blogger resides in NYC and, although her blog was originally created to talk openly and freely about her one night stands and S&M action, she is now happily engaged to a fella she refers to as "Mr. M." (short for Mr. Monogamous.) The 'Slut (as she likes to call herself) is surprised that she has settled … Read More

Today the Daily Bedpost turns us on to The Great Big Chart of Fetishes, a color-coded flow-chart of sorts, listing and linking various sexual proclivities to one another. (The chart is photo-free and safe for work, unless you've got an eagle-eyed boss, or a screen that projects onto a wall—hey, it happens.)

Some of the preferences on the chart are widespread, or at least we've heard of them, and some are, shall we say, less common.  Major categories and themes listed are…

Classic SM, including spanking, bondage, branding, suspension, burning, electrical shock—not sure when … Read More

It's the classic sex act every woman hopes she's never asked to perform."Tonight, I'd like to pretend we're strangers—you'll be wearing a gigantic raccoon costume answering to the name 'Mayuka,' and I'll be in a studded leather diaper—we'll meet at a boarding school for kid wizards and spank each other with stiletto heels while Teletubbies plays in the background. And let's film it!" OK, maybe your partner has never approached you with a bedroom request quite that elaborate… at least, one would hope he hasn't. But chances are, at some point he'll reveal a desire to you … Read More

Even if you're not sure what S&M or BDSM actually entails, the letters alone probably conjure up vivid images: Whips and chains, leather and latex, a tubby guy named The Gimp tugging on his leash as he hungrily eyes Bruce Willis in Pulp Fiction. It's common to assume that sadism-and-masochism enthusiasts are at best unusual or shocking and at worst downright depraved. But are they really?

Well, The Gimp certainly is—living in a locked crate in the basement of a pawnshop will do that to you. And anecdotal evidence does suggest that S&M enthusiasts differ from"normal" people in … Read More