Most of us when buying a car walk around it, kick the tires, look under the hood, look over the interior real good, and take it for a test drive. We may even delay the choice, giving ourselves plenty of time to gather the facts and think it over. In short, we consult our own preferences and assess whether it is a good match with our criteria. A crude analogy, to be sure, but shouldn't we really take at least as much care with our relationships?
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