Are you attracted to someone, but are honestly put off by the way they kiss? Don’t worry – we’ve all been there. Take it from us; there are definitely a lot of incredibly helpful kissing tips that will show you how to coach your partner on making out without offending them. After all, kissing should be fun, light, and enjoyable — Not stressful.
One thing is certain: "If you make a bad kisser feel self-conscious, they'll never improve," advises YourTango’s kissing consultant. To avoid a tongue fight, be prepared to take the lead and remember to put the focus on lips. Everyone kisses differently, so it’s up to you to teach your partner what you enjoy. One of the best things you can do is just talk to the person, this allows you to be open and let them know that a little practicing is need. The more you two practice the better the kissing will be. When letting them know, try not to be mean. You do not want the person to feel like they are being attacked. That can take the kissing right out of the relationship and nobody wants that. Just be patient and everything will go smoothly from then on.
"Help! My boyfriend is a terrible kisser. How can I make him better without hurting his feelings?"
Excellent question, Anna. As a pair of lips, I’m exceptionally qualified to dish about the kiss. The tongue gets all the glory, but take it from someone who knows - the lips are the most important kissing ingredient. The first thing to know is that if you make a bad kisser feel self-conscious they'll never improve. So when you first lock lips you should indulge the smoocher's lame-brain technique. It probably involves a lot of tongue. Then, right before the monotony becomes a turn-off, go for the lip. Once the focus is off the tongue, you have a ton of options. You can lightly tug their lip with yours. You can switch from top lip to bottom. The trick is to show them options without being pushy. As for the tongue, let her back in after you’ve played with the lips a bit. Good luck, Anna. And good kiss.
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