5 Tiny Behaviors That Frighten Him Away On The First Date

The first dates are significant. It's hardly rocket science; a first date is when you want to make an excellent impression. It's also a time when you want — and need — your date to make a good impression on you. After all, you wouldn't go on a second date with someone who doesn't tick all the right boxes, would you? You might. If you're like most women, you've probably already done that more than once in your life. You've probably even gone on second dates with people who've ticked one, or more, of the wrong boxes. Okay, that's good for you to know. You know how well that turned out. But let's look at the 5 things you don’t want to be doing in the future because they absolutely won't get you the outcome you want. Going on dates with the wrong men is not going to help you find the love of your life.

Here are 5 tiny behaviors that frighten him away on the first date:

1, Turn up in needy mode

A previous relationship may have dented your confidence, or you may be worrying about the lack of halfway decent men, and what happens if this date doesn’t work out. That is no way to show up on a date. Your data will be able to sniff out neediness in no time flat. You must make sure you’re feeling good before you show up on that date. Why? Because when you feel good, he’ll end up feeling good, too. So, whether or not he’s your Ideal Man at least you’ll both have a good time.

2. Spill your guts about your ex

That goes for your date, too. You’re not selling a second car. You do not have to give a full and frank account of its history. (In point of fact, not even everyone selling second-hand care does that: sometimes, they are a tad economical with the truth). This is not confession time. Chances are, you hardly know this person. What you want to do is find out a little about them, and get a feel of them — but not in the tactile sense. This is the time to avoid over-shares — of every kind.

3. Rush into things

There’s more than one way to skin a cat and there’s more than one way to rush into a relationship. You can do that intimately which tends to be a bad idea — and you can do that emotionally by starting to fantasize about your long-term future together: babies, grandchildren, where you’ll live, his and hers cemetery plots. Bad idea! Why? Because when you disappear into your fantasy, the future you see — that doesn’t exist — can look so attractive that you can cheerfully overlook things about him that you know intuitively just aren’t right for you.

4. Play at the Spanish Inquisition

Going on a first date can be stressful — especially if you tell yourself how stressful it’s going to be. Most people do not thrive on uncertainty. One quick way to get rid of that uncertainty might be to have a private detective check the other person out! Okay, so you wouldn’t do that. You know that would be truly a little crazy. However, asking deep and searching questions like: "What’s your relationship with your mother like?" or "Are you ready to settle down?" is not a whole lot better. This is a time to keep it light.

5. Try to impress

Why wouldn't you try to impress? Because when you're trying to impress, you're not being your authentic self. Who you truly are is the most valuable thing you have to offer. If someone sees it, but doesn’t appreciate it, then it’s good that it happened on Date 1, rather than further down the line. If someone can’t appreciate you for who you truly are, why would you want to be with them? The same goes for them, too. That is unless the string of cars, the properties, the clothes, and whatever else, matter to you more than the person.