Cuddle Buddies? How You Sleep Says A Lot About Your Relationship


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The way you sleep can say a lot about you and your honey.

After a long and amorous date night, do you find yourself tired and ready to catch some ZZZs? Hold that thought. Did you know that your sleeping habits are actually a great way to gauge how well your relationship is going? 

According to a recent study by the University of Hertfordshire, a direct correlation exists between physical and emotional intimacy"[a]n overwhelming 94 percent of couples who touch while sleeping said they were happy, while only 68 percent of couples who didn't touch while snoozing expressed being satisfied with their relationship."


While it comes as no surprise that body language sends a lot of signals dating-wise, the substantial amount of evidence that points to physical distance in bed as an indication of dissatisfaction is. This cements the idea that your subconscious mind can sometimes let on more than you do. It was also stated that 86 percent of couples who slept closer together reported being happier than those who laid further apart. 

Relationship psychologist Corrine Sweet found that "[c]ouples fall into habitual ways of sleeping together that suits their personalities and personal preferences. These are negotiated at the outset, so if something changes in how they sleep together, this can reflect a change in their relationship and cause concern for the other partner."

Ladies, you'll be shocked to hear that being a cuddle master isn't everything. Ironically, Travelodge's research suggests that sleeping with your backs facing each other is actually a sign that your relationship couldn't be better. Known as the liberty position (and as one of the most common sleeping positions), the 46 percent of lovers who sleep this way feel intimate towards each other without having to be interdependent.

Conversely, if he's more into being completely off to the side , you may have a problem. According to Travelodge, "[i]f hands and/or arms are held, or pressed tightly, or straight down at the sides it means 'I want to be alone'."

Social Psychologist Amy Cuddy stated that how small you make yourself in sleep is sometimes a sign of uncertainty. Her advice"Basically, our bodies change our minds, our minds change our behaviors, and our behaviors change our outcomes." Essentially, your confidence determines what your body language gives off. If you want to feel more confident in your relationship, you have to take the necessary steps to get there.

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