Zita Fekete - Counselor/Therapist - Mukilteo, WA
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Zita Fekete (LMHC,MA)

Counselor/Therapist

If you are in a good relationship; most things feel safe and sound and uncomplicated. 

If you are confused, full of doubts about your own qualities, not sure what’s wrong with you but you afraid something is, because your partner indicates it… That is a desperate place to be.

It might be even worst if you tried everything possible but still you cannot feel good enough and your efforts are not appreciated.

I've seen many-many people struggling with it. They didn't even realize they were in manipulative relationship and these feelings were imposed on them for a reason: controlling their behavior by pressurizing them.

I hardly ever met people who were not manipulated somewhen in their life. It can happen everywhere in every relationship. It is not a shame. Yes, it might be happening with you too.


Emotional Manipulation is a double base communication process with that one partner gets the other doing what s/he doesn’t want to by inducing guilt, shame or anxiety. In order to avoid the pressure you and me and anyone would comply; and feel frustrated, even angry.

If you protest; you are too sensitive, rebellious or cannot adjust. Seemingly there is no good solution.

Because of this manipulative control you might feel helpless and hopeless.

Without putting the blame on you, there is an understandable but huge mistake we all make:  we comply to avoid feeling guilty, ashamed or anxious. It sounds reasonable, but in reality this reinforces the unfair practice: the manipulator applies this pressure because it works!

Truly, this is our chance to take back the control into our hands! We don’t have to comply!

We have rights to our own needs and wants!
We can learn to withstand the negative feelings!
We can reveal the sneaky nature of Emotional Manipulation and resist it exactly on that hidden point which comes against us.

 

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From Strings To Wings: Reveal and Override Emotional Manipulation

 

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The Reason I Became A Helping Professional

Honestly: from selfishness.

I grew up in a loving-nurturing family and I love them all dearly; however quite a few types of manipulative games were represented. We had a “Constant Victim”, we had more “One-Upmaship Expert”s, we had a “Dependent in Charge”, we had a “Blaster” and we had an “Iron Fist”. Most of the times I could get along with them very well but once in a while they made my life complicated.

In those confusing times full of doubts, frustration and anger I got to the conclusion that if I understand better what’s going on deeper in the unconscious level, I will be able to handle the stressful situations with more competence. It's happened.

Now it’s time to share those experiences with you.

"From Strings To Wings: Reveal and Override Emotional Manipualtion"

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Zita Fekete

Additional Details

I am:

Married

Have children:

Yes

Zita Fekete

Payment Options

Accepts Credit Cards:

No

Accepts Insurance:

Yes

Accepts Paypal:

Yes

Sliding Scale:

Yes

Fee Range:

Between $81-120 per session

Zita Fekete

Quick Stats

Credentials:

LMHC, MA

Time in Practice:

10 years +

I practice in:

All areas, please inquire

Additional Expertise:
I offer my services:

At my office

Other, please inquire

I am fluent in:

Hungarian

Licence information:

Expiration 5/8/14
Number LH 60159659

Articles by Zita Fekete
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Concealing vulnerability, covering aggression and ambivalent feelings dysfunctional expression.

shame

6 Common Forms Of Manipulation

The guilt trip, silent treatments, threats, and constant badgering, gets you to do what s/he wants.

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Your Relationship's New Year's Resolution Checklist

Is your relationship fairly balanced, or do you have areas to improve? A list of what to look at.

Argument

How Do I Know It's Manipulation?

What you do serves others' interests only.

The One Who Yells Loses In Relationships

The One Who Yells Loses In Relationships

Yelling shows you are frustrated. You lose ground. You don't get what you want; you are loosing.

Zita Fekete

All Specialties

Abortion Issues, Anxiety Issues, Communication Problems, Divorce/Divorce Prevention, Empowering Women, Life Transitions, Personality Disorders, Post Traumatic Stress / Trauma