Top 10 Causes Of Divorce

If you think that sexual infidelity is the leading cause of divorce, you've got it all wrong.

We polled over 100 YourTango Experts to see what they say are the top reasons married couples decide to split, and, believe it or not, communication problems came out on top as the number one reason marriages fail. Here are some other culprits our experts blame for the alarmingly high divorce rate:

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1. Getting in for the wrong reasons. Marrying for money. We've all heard that that's a ticket to a quick divorce, but what about when you marry because it's what you think you should do?

I've met many divorced ladies who say the problems that made them leave were there right from the beginning but "everyone expected us to live happily ever after" or "we had already spent so much money on the wedding" or "we had just built our dream home." So, remember, until you say "I do," you always have the choice to say "I don't!" —Lisa Payne

2. Lack of individual identity. A codependent relationship is not healthy. When you don't have your own interests or the opportunity to express yourself outside of coupledom, you become "couple dumb."

If you are not comfortable doing things without your partner, or you don't know what kind of music, movies, or food you used to like, you are likely in deep and you probably feel like you are drowning and don't know why. —Lisa Payne

3. Becoming lost in the roles. Just as many couples "forget" their single friends and single ways when they get married, when you add children into the mix, most parents soon neglect or completely forget that they are a couple.

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As children grow and need less attention, many husbands and wives find that they have grown apart and they can't remember why they ever got married in the first place because they no longer have anything in common. —Lisa Payne

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