If we think about what are teens are going through, we may find that it's so obvious why they experience anger so often and so intensely. Once we do, the compassion and empathy will ooze out of us. We may even want to cry for them. Yet, we still have to parent, offer structure and guidance.
Parenting a teen is no easy task. They seem hard to reach. Teens know too much to think if they share their pain with you, that you would be qualified to help them. Teens are in a tough spot and it often makes them feel frustration and anger. Here are 10 reasons why.
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1. Oppression. During teenage years, a child is becoming more independent and views most authority as oppressive—yes, cruel control of their individuality and expression. They are trying on a variety of personalities to see which actually works and fits for them and are faced with a lot of opposition from authority. They are more interested in what their peers are doing, thinking and choosing during this time because they are going through the same things and can relate. 20 Ways Your Addiction Affects Your Kids
2. They're stuck. Teens are stuck in various environments, at home, school and religious affiliations, in which they spend most of their time. Their lives are dictated by the decisions made by their parents, their schools and the progression into their parents religious choices, if involved. They don't have many autonomous choices that they are allowed to make. Rebellion seems to be the best answer. They know that they can choose rebellion to feel some type of control in their lives.
3. Socialized confusion. We are all born as who we are. As children we get to discover the world around us in the way of our natural instinct and true personality directs. Once a child begins school, and becomes exposed to difference and socialization, they are taught in various ways to become stifled. As teens, they are now expected to be more responsible and are evaluating the way things are differently. This leaves them to consider the mixed messages of self, parental guidance, society and peer groups. What a difficult time and process to go through.
4. Awkward. Teens are making that transition between being a child and becoming an adult. They're still attracted to childish amusements, and yet feel they have enough know-how to act in adult roles. Authority figures expect them to be obedient children, but act mature and make the right decisions. They now are surrounded by physical and emotional attractions by their peers and may feel some themselves. They don't know what to do. How I Learned To Love Myself In Alcoholics Anonymous
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5. Puberty. Teens are now experiencing hormonal changes and physical development. This can be a complete physical and physiological metamorphosis. They don't understand all that they're feeling and are not comfortable with what is happening.
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