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Cohabitating After An Affair: Is It A Good Idea? [EXPERT]
Can he trust her again?
Forgiveness is one thing; cohabitation is another. Is Robert Pattinson making a smart decision?

It's rumored that Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson have not only gotten back together, but are living together again as well. While no one can say for certain if the relationship will last, it's clear that the couple is trying to pick up the pieces of their shattered relationship.

Celebrity or not, cheating is something many women have to deal with, so this begs the question — should you get back together with someone who has cheated on you? And not only that, but would you move back in with them?

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Some people think that yes, cheating is absolutely forgivable simply because everyone makes mistakes. But are all mistakes created equal? Unfortunately, no.

Forgetting to unload the dishwasher and accidentally sleeping with your boss aren't exactly on the same level on the mistake-o-meter. While it's possible to forgive your ex, it doesn't mean that getting back into a live-in relationship with them is the healthiest thing you can do for yourself.

Reconciling with someone who has betrayed your trust is often an uphill battle. Forgiving someone doesn't mean that all of the repercussions from their actions vanish. You might find yourself having a difficult time trusting them, and rightfully so.

You may still have intense anger you're holding in that causes you to begin to resent your partner. Or, you might feel pressured to just "get over it" or "move on," and brush your true feelings to the side. Overcoming Infidelity: 6 Tips To Make It Work

Cheating doesn't have to mean the end of your relationship though. It is possible to have a happy and healthy relationship with someone who has hurt you, as long as you remain honest — to yourself and to your partner.  This might mean you have plenty of long, emotionally draining talks about what happened, and why. What Lies Beneath Emotional Infidelity?

It's important to be open with your feelings and this isn't the time to hold anything back. When you've been cheated on, you feel invisible and insignificant, and this is your time to make sure that you are heard-loud and clear. Make no excuses about what you expect from your partner if you do reconcile, and don't apologize for anything that you need. 22 Ways Couples Can Overcome Infidelity

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If they want to step up to the plate, they will. It's not an easy road, but for some couples it is completely worth it while others might find that their relationship simply can't bounce back from the sting of infidelity.

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