When you're looking for love it's a struggle not to get impatient and to put your trust in Divine Timing. The longer it takes, the more desperate you feel and the harder you have to work at keeping the faith that it's going to happen.
There's a contradiction you have to work through: that as much as you need to hold the vision of the man and relationship you want in your mind -- you also need to be able to stop focusing on it and let it go.
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What can truly help you through this process of dating and finding love is to trust in Divine Timing. You don't have to be religious or have any particular belief to embrace this concept. Divine Timing is a way of looking at how your life is unfolding that will to help take the pressure off your search to find a man and get married.
To quote part of a prayer by Jacob Glass:
"There is no need to hurry or to rush, the Universe has perfect timing...I step back now and allow the Universe to do the work. I do not interfere nor doubt. I trust that it is done."
You can read a lot of relationship advice but unless you find a way to make peace with the timing of your life you will suffer. There is nothing harder than waiting for something you want to happen. You have to trust and hold on to the belief that the right man is out there waiting for you. That is what will get you through the hard times.
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If you look back you can see that this has been a part of your life's journey all along. There has been a "rightness" to the way different people have come in and out of your experience. Half the battle is keeping the faith and trusting the way your life is unfolding.
Use Divine Timing as a motivator to keep you actively dating and looking for the man you desire, don't let it be an excuse to not do anything while you're waiting.
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There is an anonymous writing I come upon that says it all, and I can personally attest to it's validity. It's the best relationship advice for any single woman:
"One day, someone will walk into your life and make you see why it never worked out with anyone else."