Change Your Mindset, Find True Love

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Change Your Mindset, Find True Love [EXPERT]
Ask yourself these three questions ...

Your mindset is everything when it comes to helping you find love. I'm not just talking about romantic love. I'm talking about love, overall. Love is a state of mind that either is or isn't something you cultivate. Hard Work Ahead: Are Relationships Really Worthwhile?

Wikipedia defines mindset as:

"A set of assumptions, methods or notations held by one or more people, that creates a powerful incentive within these people or groups to continue to adopt or accept prior behaviors, choices, or tools."

Your mindset is how you approach the world. If you let it run wild, it will compel you to make the same choices over and over again. No one is exempt from having a mindset. We all have one. It's like a filter through which you perceive your reality. 3 Mistakes You May Make When Looking For Love

Your mindset, like a bad habit, has a shadow side. The shadow is devious and makes it tough for us to see that we have any particular mindset at all. It tricks us into believing that "it's just the way we think." No big deal.

If you're having trouble in your romantic life, it's time to see if your mindset needs an adjustment. If you think your mindset might be causing problems, you have the power to change it. Like breaking any habit, it demands a great amount of effort and determination. The 3 Big Reasons You're Still Single

Answer the following three questions to see if your mindset is on the right track to finding love:

1. Have you created the right environment to attract love? How you set up your life and personal space will tell you a lot. If you don't pay attention to how you're living and what you come home to at night, you aren't "setting the stage" for the love you want.

Surround yourself with things that make you feel good. Make it a priority to always be around things that you consider beautiful. Your bedroom should be restful and inviting. Your home space should be free of clutter. Changing your home environment will change your energy and create a new mindset towards love.

2. Are you surrounding yourself with people who support you? If you're not seeking out positive, supportive people in your life, you will feel overwhelmed. None of us can do it alone. Regardless of how strong you think you are, we all need outside input and camaraderie to remind us that we are valuable and special people. Avoid 'Hot & Cold' Men At All Costs

If you spend time with friends who love to gossip and complain, this negativity will rub off on you. These kinds of interactions support a mindset of being a victim to outside circumstances. You must find people who have a positive outlook on life and love. Surround yourself with people who see you as the wonderful person you are.

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